what should i do ? what would you do ???

[sleepyfriends]

hi all

This is the 1st time i have posted on here so not sure if i am in the right section or not.

I have been friends with this person for about 6/7 yrs now. The problem i have is that i try & not go to her house when atall possible. The first time i went to her house i was appauled by the mess its not just untidy but filthy aswell. Over the years it has just got so i dont go near atall unless i realy have to even though we are still friends. Each to their own but i am concerned about her 2 kids. I have offered to help her clean things up (dont know if i could stomach it) but she has refused me & other friends offers.

Like i said its not just mess, we can all be untidy but this is pure filth. You cannot see her carpets under dirty washing,burst bin bags and even used nappies . The minute she opens the front door the stench hits you. I dont know how health visitors said nothing about it to her when she had her kids. I was in for all of 2mins a couple of weeks ago but had to make an excuse & leave sharp because it was just worse than you can imagine. Please help because i realy dont know what to do !!!!

I feel terrible for leaving it this long but didnt want to get involved but its got to the stage that i am realy worried about the kids health

does she have a dh? could u have a word there

its hard and i think most of us have been in the situation where we get overwhelmed.

one thing i ensure my kids r bathed every day with clean clothes go to bed bathed again and in clean pjs.

maybe you could offer to mind her dcs or sumthing and clean while u were there?

i have gone to my sil house b4 and done this while she was at work and my brother was there.

Thanks for that alors, i agree with you that the system is unfair..from what you have said. So are you saying that nothing will be done about this ??

Hunnybun her dh left about 1yr ago and i have no idea where he is now as he has never been back intouch with her since he left.I remember a time when her mil had attempted to tidy the kitchen 1 night while watching the kids & she just called her an interfeering bitch so dont think she would appreciate that either.tbh i dont think i could stomache it to babysit.

what an awful situation, alors, i cant beleive that nothing would be done unless there is an accident or illness. thats surely what the system is set up to prevent???