Make me love housework... PLEASE!

[coveredinsnot]

I hate housework. Most of the time. Sometimes I get some satisfaction from it, but mostly I hate it. I've noticed I often feel quite annoyed when I'm doing things around the house. I'd rather be doing other things. I get annoyed with my partner for not helping out as much as I'd like him to, although in reality he does about as much as he can do, in typical man-style - not good enough for me..! Occasionally this dance of dissatisfaction combined with my bitterness about cleaning gets into a frenzy, and we have an argument about it - like last night. The arguments are boring, and it's really the only thing we frequently argue about. It's ridiculous! I wish I could just get on with it all and not get so wound up with it. Anyone got a secret to share with me to change my life? (And yes, I've signed up to Flylady, which is helpful sometimes, but still... the anger burns away...).

I'm also due to go back to work in January for 3 days per week, and I keep visualising the house in ruins... My job is very stressful and will require me to work quite a lot in the evenings etc. I don't know when I'll have time to get anything done!

I'm not uptight about housework particularly, things are generally a bit higgledy piggldy, the whole house is never simultaneously clean, but still. I don't want to live in a shit pit.

HELP!

You need a cleaner - especially when you go back to work.

Do not even think about living without one

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Agree with Anna. You need a cleaner if you can afford one. Even two hours a week will help a lot. In fact, given the sound of your job you will have to have one to save your sanity.

Argh... we can't afford a cleaner. I would LOVE one. Seriously. But we just can't do it. I'm usually cleaning when my son is around, so an ipod is no help! Unless he's asleep, perhaps I'll give that a go. I often have music on anyway though.

More ideas..............................!!!

How much does a cleaner cost anyway? About £8 or £9 per hour?

Work an extra half-day - it will easily cover the cost of a half-day of cleaner and leave you some extra

make you love it?
sorry, im not qualified in full frontal lobotomies, otherwise id help you out love.

i quite like housework once i get started, takes my mind off things

I also hate with a passion and would much rather be out of the house with dc - my answer (or more like what i do) is get out of the house as much as possible. It keeps it cleaner and in the evening it's dark so you can't see the dirt!

If you find a real answer please let me know!

I actually LIKE housework I really do!! But i get cross cos i never seem to get enough time to get stuck in and get loads done, what with work etc.,

I find that i like the way the house looks and 'feels' when it is clean and tidy so that makes me want to do it, and if you look around whilst you are halfway through you may find it spurs you on cos it is all starting to feel so much better!!

I love the fact that life is easier with a clean/tidy house, things run smoother and everything is less of a chore! I mean all that i really do lol!

The problem is that life gets in the way! I need to take a week or so off to get everything organised and then it would be a case of just keeping on top of things each day.....easy peasy!!!!

Dare i say......try and think of it as a challenge????

I too like a clean and tidy house, hence the stress around it not being that way! I don't want it perfect, but I want it fairly clean and presentable... it's just neverending, I get something sorted and within hours it looks like I haven't done anything. It's so thankless and frustrating!

blossomsmine im exactly the same, i get in very bad form when i havent had time to keep on top of everything. which happens quite often. i do feel for ds though as when i am cleaning, i get very engrossed and hate being interrupted. he gets pushed to the sidelines when i go on a frenzy which is ridiculous really as we all no its more rewarding to spend time with dcs. but the cleanings always there waiting to be done. saying that, mine never is completely done. id love a few days alone to do house top to bottom. not gona happen, me thinks.

I don't think the housework is EVER completely done is it There is always something else to do isn't there! I am the same, getting engrossed and not wanting to be interrupted lol! I also have this really sad habit......I have to do the ironing whilst watching the tv and i can't bear it if people talk to me whilst i am doing it, i get really cross lol!

Get a roomba - we've just bought one as a joint Christmas present to each other and we both absolutely love it. It's life enhancing - you feel so much better if the house is vacuumed and then you can be getting on with something else at the same time. I was so over excited today because I was hoovering, doing the washing and preparing a stew for dinner, all at the same time!

You could be all mystical about your house if that helps and repeat over and over, this house is not my enemy it is my friend, shelters me feeds me, I like it here. Sometimes I open the front door and feel the house is against me. And dh doesn't even notice except when he can't find something and then complains bitterly. But after all the house is just an extension of us. We can't cure all our own problems in a day, so the poor house can't be cured either. Is this any help? or just bunk? Off to tidy now..Getting distracted by computer.

You must get a cleaner. Life's too short. Before you had kids you would think nothing of spending 20 quid on a round of drinks. It saves your sanity. You are worth more than cleaning. you will be working part time. There's enough to do even with a cleaner. It's more quality time with your kids. (can you tell I think you should get a cleaner?) I also work 3 days..