What to get MIL who says she wants nothing for her birthday????

[lucysmam]

She had some very very bad news yesterday and isn't bothered about celebrating her birthday next Tuesday but I would still like to either make or do or buy something for her to let her know we are thinking of her & are here if she needs us. But without actually saying that and upsetting her!

Anyone any ideas what I could do/buy/make without her feeling I've gone to a lot of trouble when she's not bothered, I would be very grateful

voucher for massage/facial?

A nice Plant/orchid or flowers?

Pamper session at her local salon?
Book vouchers?
Framed photo of kids?

Flowers or a flowering pot plant.

Not hugely original but not too over the top yet still the sort of thing she is unlikely to get for herself.

Homemade card with photo of the children, husband and you with a message to the effect that you love her and will always be there for her if she needs you.

What about making some cakes/biscuits.

invite her for a meal? my mum is always saying she would prefer not to be given more 'things' as she has all she needs/wants. but she is very appreciative of 'consumable' gifts, such as flowers, chocolate or a an invitation for a home-cooked meal (something that she normally wouldn't cook for herself.

When my dd or ddil ask me what i want for my birthday/christmas- i know they are all short of cash, so when i say nothing I mean nothing - just a nice card, and if they can get my dgc to make me a card all the better

I'd just send flowers

I know you don't want to give details, but if the bad news in any way includes attending a funeral in the next week or so I'd avoid flowers.

combustible, it doesn't involve attending a funeral but she's not keen on flowers so they're out. Although some home made biscuits or cakes & a card made by the lo sound like a good idea & she'd appreciate them I think.

chisi, I like your idea too, will suggest that to my oh when he gets in.

Thanks for your help everyone, off to find a nice simple biccy recipe & add drawing pens and a card for the lo to 'create' to my shopping list