She will be up the stairs and snooping around like a heat seeking missile in slingbacks. To make matters so much worse, ive had such a busy week, and dd1 was home from school for 3 days unwell, and I am so behind with everything. She makes comments and it really gets to me, or even worse silently starts sorting out a drawer, or cleaning fingerprints off a door , and it makes me feel awful. Last time she came she offered to put dd1 to bed, after absolutely AGES I went up , and poor dd was in bed, but mil had the light full on noisily tutting and folding everything in her knickers/vests/pyjamas drawer. When she saw me standing there she said ' in my day we had a pair on , a pair in the drawer, and a pair in the wash ! This is a ridiculous amount of underwear !' The thing is , her house isnt perfect, but I was never be so rude as to make comments. Sorry, but just had to rant.