How to get stuff done with 3 month old

[JJeben]

Hi all looking for some advice. I have a 3 month old little boy. I love him to death but he will not nap during the day unless it’s contact napping
or outside in the buggy (he also hates slings and carriers.)

I hate letting him cry it out but sometimes I feel like it’s the only option. It stresses me out so much and the noise of the crying overstimulates me so much. But equally the state of the house is making me feel so low, groggy and unmotivated. I’ve tried different swings and bouncers but I struggle to go more than 5 minutes of him crying before I just have to pick up and 5 minutes is not enough to get anything done. My partner does what she can but she works 4 twelve hour shifts and one ten hour shift every week so she’s very rarely here. obviously she helps out when she’s home but the majority of the time it’s just myself and my son. You can’t see the floor in our bedroom because of the mounds of laundry there’s mounds of wasning up etc::: everything is just too much and feels impossible to fix and keep even slightly ontop of. My partner gets him down to when she gets home so I can shower and then we try and tackle as much as possible as well as cooking dinner and her shower etc… and by this point it’s like 1am. I just don’t know what to do/

I have a 4 month old and three other children. My house is very clean and tidy and the answer is... a Tula (back cary specifically.)

3 months? Please talk to your HV or GP for a PND screening. I know it might feel intimidating but getting the right help can make the difference between things seeming possible and impossible.

I'm probably a bit old to advise as memory fades but I remember going on very carefully timed walks for the exact minimum number of minutes for eldest to get off to sleep. It was like a military operation. Then straight in the front door, park her and if I'd timed it well I'd have half an hour to myself. But the odd nap Is not really enough to fix these overwhelming feelings and the 1am bedtimes.

A sling library perhaps for a different sling but I would still suggest the PND screening. Tag teaming rather than doing things together - it's only for a month or two to get you through - but again it's not the whole solution.

Things did improve when my eldest learned to sit up, but I know that feels a lifetime away to you at the moment.

Do you have a dishwasher? You need to focus on the basics tasks you can do in five minute slots. On a day to day basis I'd say that's:
1 put a load of washing on.(2 minutes.)
2 load the dishwasher (4 minutes)
3 wipe the kitchen table and worktops (4 minutes)
4 move washing to drier (1 min)
5 unload dishwasher (4 minutes)
6 fold and put washing away (10 minutes)

I'd recommend labour saving devices wherever possible. Robot vacuum cleaners, internet food shopping, etc. You might also find menu planning, batch cooking, etc. helpful.

You/your partner can do other cleaning while the other one takes the baby for a walk. I'd do this weekly - bathrooms, quick vacuum, change beds, etc.

Would your baby lie on a play mat next to where you're working so you can chat/sing to him while you tidy up?