Do you think men should do more house chores?

[Julia34]

No matter if they work or not? Because even women going to work and after work they cooking, cleaning and look after their kids. Should men also coming back from work and cook,clean and look after the kids instead just sid on sofa before the TV 😅?

Some do.
If yours doesn’t then you need to ask him to step up.

I have no partner. Had before, but he was to lazy 🙄

Of course they should. It’s not 1953, the cleaning is very much their responsibility as it is of everyone else who live in one house hold together.

This is based on the assumption that men, as a whole, do not already do housework. That hasn’t been my experience. It’s 2024, an adult that lives in a home is responsible for the upkeep of said home, regardless of their genitalia.

Not in my house, absolutely not. He does loads.

What am I reading?

This. We both work FT and have a child. DH does all the food shopping and cooking, and probably does most of the laundry. I do baking, more homework than DH, and the garden. We have a cleaner.

Yes I think same. I was for years do everything over my partner he did nothing at home and he threatened me that if I stop cook for him, clean his mess he will go another women. But one day I decide I prefer to be single mom instead being someone slave. So I leave one day house not clean, I not cook him, not make him breakfast morning etc and he go to other women. I ask one my friend to follow him. She toke pictures. Then my freedom come 😅I break up with him. I single and life is much more easy. He just see our daughter at weekends and must pay child maintenance and guess what his new partner never cook for him at all so he try get back with me ,but NEVER me gonna have again lazy man over my roof. Now he is alone and must do.all house chores by himself

So, this post isn’t about men in general. It’s about one particularly shit man who you were in a relationship with.

Well done for ending it. However, your choices aren’t just ‘slave’ or ‘single’. You could also be with someone who isn’t an arsehole. I highly recommend it.

Also, please know that you don’t need photos or proof of cheating to break up with someone. You can just end things because they aren’t making you happy.

I am staggered that you even feel the need to ask.

Yes this true. I was young and stupid 😅

The equal downtime approach is fairest taking into account commutes, childcare, working hours etc. DH does barely any housework. But he's away 4 nights a week (and does all the housework at his home address), does a lot of the extra curricular stuff for the children, coaches a rugby team and works in our shared business. I do everything the days ges away (including working and a volunteer role, plus house and kids stuff) housework while he's doing the extracurricular stuff and work in the business. Its rare one is sitting around while other works

You weren’t stupid. You found yourself in a bad situation and you ended it. That’s always hard and very brave. Be proud of yourself.

Yes I know thanks 🌻

Most men are a bit shit. Whatever people say to you, yours was not an isolated situation OP. Very few men pull their weight adequately... It's just a varying scale of shitness. I'm not talking out of my hat either - statistics bear this out.

So yes the vast majority of men should probably do more chores and childcare and take on more of the mental load.

However, most aren't so obviously shit that women can toss them out without noticing their absence (or indeed enjoying it instead).

You right. I know there are men who do a lot, but they are also lots men who do little or nothing at all. I now live in my house without man and is much easier