How do you feel coming home to a messy home

[iwantsunshine1]

I get really stressed when the house is a mess and really struggle to relax. I work 2 days a week and I always try to ensure I tidy the house and do the dishes before I go bed every day. This isn't always possible as with 2 kids fighting bedtime sometimes I just down have the energy. On days I don't and I come home from work to the house being a mess I just get so down and instantly start tidying when all I want to do is sit and relax. Is anyone else like this? My dh works full time and will help tidy in the evening if I ask him too but always feel guilty doing so.

Totally ambivalent… maybe it’s starts to annoy me after 3/4 days!!

Don't love it but I don't get stressed. It's constant. We are about to embark on some renovations which means the kids will be living downstairs for 8 weeks. I'm just going to ignore and pretend it's not there!

Well, I don't feel brilliant about it but as I live alone I can hardly complain!

I'm exactly the same op. I hate when the house is a mess and i'm constantly tidying and cleaning. Sometimes i wish i could just switch off from it because does it really matter that there's some toys on the floor and washing to put away. I envy my friends who are relaxed about these things.

I hate coming home to a mess and waking up to a mess. It doesn't mean it's always completely tidy, there's some times where it can't be ... but I really don't like it, it doesn't feel right

I only stress about mess I can see

So I have a small basket type thing in the living room and anything that does not live in that room gets chucked in there and then I walk around the house and place in the rooms where it should be and I have basket storage in the other rooms

So lets say chargers, I have a basket of chargers, in they all go, lid closed, in the cupboard - the basket is a mess but the cupboard isnt.

Dressing table clutter - same thing - basket for hair products, basket for skin and basket for non daily used cosmetics

Baskets for shoe care, baskets for cleaning products, - baskets galore - everything just tossed in and hidden behind cupboard doors

Makes keeping the house tidy so easy

It doesn't make me feel stress but the state of my home does have an impact on me. After decades of keeping a clean and tidy home, things slipped in the pandemic and the weekly clean became monthly or whenever we had company. I recently went back to the weekly clean and I am appreciating my efforts every day, it does make me feel calm, peace, contentment, etc.

I totally understand OP. I feel very stressed if I come home to a messy house and I can't relax until it's tidy.

Me too OP. In fact I stopped and wondered why I was so stressed recently as I didn’t have a real reason, finally after a decade of troubles. Then I realised it was the mess. Annoying thing is it gets to a point where I cannot begin to tackle it and I get more stressed. The only thing that seems to work for me is being as minimalist as I possibly can. I am exhausted today due to recent sickness but cannot rest and am just looking at the mess around me hoping it magically goes away.
I am really struggling with dds toys. I need to let half of them go but can’t bring myself to do it.

I'd prefer not to but sometimes life gets in the way!

On days I don't and I come home from work to the house being a mess I just get so down and instantly start tidying when all I want to do is sit and relax.

I never feel like this. I would have a cup of tea and then tidy up later. You could do that and see if you can gradually dial down the feelings of stress. Homes sometimes get a bit messy, then they get tidied up again.

Yes, I find it almost impossible to relax amongst clutter and mess.

I live with two teens, a dog, two cats and a hoarder husband so it’s a constant battle. My work pattern is sporadic through the week- an hour here, an hour there, and I often come in at around lunchtime really hungry but don’t feel able to prepare and eat a meal for myself until kitchen is clean and tidy. Husband works at home and will see me cleaning and say ‘Leave it, I’ll do that later- have your lunch’ and I know he absolutely would do it later, but I just can’t relax and enjoy my lunch when the kitchen is a mess.

The only room I’m able to keep really uncluttered is the bedroom so I often go up to bed quite early so I can relax in a peaceful space!