What is your bedroom like…Chaotic? Peaceful haven?

[BarnabyJude]

Whenever I have stayed in a hotel/B&B /air Bnb etc I have loved the uncluttered/zen like vibe of the master bedroom. No piles of not-dirty-enough-for-the-laundry-basket/not-clean-enough-for-the-wardrobe clothes. No random stuff gathering dust. Just the odd candle, tasteful throw, bedside lamp dotted about.

our bedroom is a bit of a dumping ground for charity bagsVinted listings/random piles of stuff with no clear home/ washing to be put away/etc etc. chaotic most of the time!

I’m just wondering if I’m alone in this chaos and that most people’s bedroom is a peaceful haven of relaxation.

if your bedroom is a space you love/retreat to then what is your secret? How did you achieve it? Would love to know and be inspired! ❤️

If the bedroom isn't like yours then another room or the garage is, that's the rule x

The kids moved out, mad decluttering and the smallest bedroom now the dumping ground.

I can barely get into mine at the moment. I hate it, but finding the time for a big sort/declutter is impossible! I never get far enough to actually seem like it's made a difference.
I need someone to take my child on holiday for week!

Ours is a haven. I have a zero tolerance policy on dumping stuff in there and we don't have anywhere else which is a dumping ground, just try to be ruthless in either finding a proper home for things or getting rid of them straightaway.

My children are teenagers though, I'm not sure it's so easy when they are smaller.

No piles of not-dirty-enough-for-the-laundry-basket/not-clean-enough-for-the-wardrobe clothes

Clothes are either clean enough for the wardrobe or dirty to be washed in this house. We have no piles of half clean/dirty clothing. Washing is put away when it’s done or ironed and not left in piles. When the children were at home their washing was put away as it was done/ironed and as they got older they put it away.

I’ve never done Vinted, I take anything we haven’t used in a year to the charity shop every few months and I’ve never allowed clutter.

My room right now is an absolute sty. I like it being my sanctuary. Need to get around to sorting it.

What's actually stopping you and your partner/husband from dealing with the "piles of not-dirty-enough-for-the-laundry-basket/not-clean-enough-for-the-wardrobe clothes, random stuff gathering dust, charity bagsVinted listings/random piles of stuff with no clear home/ washing to be put away/etc etc"?

Half an hour's job?
10 minutes a day thereafter.
Sorted.
NB:
Don't bother with Vinted.
Stop buying stuff.

My bedroom is a lovely peaceful haven.

The conservatory is the dumping ground . . .

I have one big bag for Vinted and delete old listings after a month. I find if it doesn't sell quickly, it doesn't sell.

thank you everyone for your replies - some of you have reassured me and others have handed out some harsh reality…..now it’s time to actually start sorting the problem!

I'm trying to get to sanctuary
I had loads ready and listed for vinted but it took too long so I deleted them all and took huge bags to charity shop
That helped
I need another wardrobe which would improve it but until I get that I have storage boxes for surplus clothes
It's slow progress

Haven.

Small amount of crap in the utility otherwise every thing has it's place.

My bed is my peaceful haven. I have exactly what I want on it (and in it!) and I don't much care what's around it. After all, unless I'm actually using the bed, I'm not using the room for relaxing.

Mine is a dump. My half is neat and clean. My husbands is a pigsty. I put him in the far side of the room so you cant see it as much from the door

I made a decision i wasnt going to tidy up after him and assumed he'd evenfually do it himself. He hasnt. He possibly has adhd. There is dirty and clean clothes, tools and random bits of wood, packaging. All sorts..

I dont seem to have this magic power other mumsnetters have where they explain they dont like the mess and their partner sorts it out.

I'm pretty sure DH, DS10 and DD13 have ADHD in my house. I'm not joking around saying this, I genuinely believe they need to be tested. Husband can't organise anything at home. He can load dishwasher and put a wash on but actual tidying, he can't do. My children struggle with this as well. I'm a bit obsessive with tidying as is DS4.

The older children ask for help, it's clear they can't start a task without help from me. DS10 will happily hoover his room but he will put everything on the floor onto his bed. He can't seem to filter the crap for the bin. DH is like this.

Anyway to come back to OP's question. My bedroom is never the peaceful haven I would like it to be. It starts that way but then DH will leave what I call a shit heap on his side of the room. DSs will bring books and toys in. The drawers I could get rid of because they are magnets for shit mountains.

Someone said stop buying stuff, I've done this. I've also knocked eBay on the head. Clothes go straight to charity (when they allow it, some don't take donations).

OK, it's never going to be perfect in looks and tidiness though because I share it with DH.

thank you for your replies! I think living with a messy person must be so challenging if you’re a tidy sort 😘.

so, i have sorted the laundry… didn’t take that long and it’s a good feeling to tick it off the list.

What I’ve realised /probably known all along is the lion’s share of the excess stuff is Vinted (either listed or aiming to be listed). What makes it harder is most of the clothes are from a family member’s house clearance, (I offered to sell them to raise cash but I really don’t think they’d mind if I passed the items to charity). There must be 8 big boxes of it!

I guess it comes down to a simple equation - what is of higher value: cash earned from Vinted or mental clarity gained from a tidy space.

I guess it comes down to a simple equation - what is of higher value: cash earned from Vinted or mental clarity gained from a tidy space

Less is more.
Not facing those boxes ever again - priceless.