Decluttering but keep being given stuff

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It's a really awkward one. FIL has recently lost his wife and he is decluttering. He keeps giving bags and bags of stuff to us and I just don't know what to do with it all. Husband is not tidy person and not proactive to sort these bags out. It's starting to stress me out, but due to the recent sad circumstances feel it would be rude to say no we can't take them. Our house is already cluttered and bursting to capacity without more being added and it's stressful.

Had this with MIL & DH bringing a boot load of stuff every time he visited! We were very strict about dealing with it - day after it all got brought in, emptied out & checked for any valuables/money, then pile for dump (put straight back in car ) or charity (bagged to go next day) or keep ( very little of this tbh! ) . I quickly realised the only way to do this was always had a tip slot booked for afternoon so went straight there, then charity stuff straight back 9n car & taken the next day.
It was a real pain dealing with it & took a couple of years but it made a real difference in the clutter in her home so better for us if staying & best of all when she passed away that was all done- which meant just furniture & more personal stuff to sort before selling house. Although we still have some of that in our loft waiting for DH to be ready to deal with :((

When you're grieving time is needed. We kept everything because everything had a memory to begin with but have gradually been able to let go of more.

As the bags come in the door, bag by bag open each one, ask DH to pick out the one or two things he wants to keep and rebag items, then bin them. If DH is disinterested in picking items put bags straight in bin