Tips for getting kids involved with chores

[BlackYellowBlue]

Four kids 14, 11, 10, 6. They help out bits around the house but I'd like them to help a little more. Any tips for what works well in your house? Linked to pocket money or extras like later bed time, extra device time etc.?

Any tips would be much appreciated:)

All but the youngest don’t need bribes!

Ask for a reasonable contribution. Consequences of kick up a fuss or don’t do. That’s how it works here 🤷‍♀️

I think there’s two sets of chores:
1 set of things expected
1 set of things that you can earn things for

The former being: making bed, cleaning room, washing in the washing basket. Anything to do with their direct domain- ie. Room. Clean football boots.

I would differentiate between things that are standard and expected of everyone living in the house and extras.

The standard things don't need rewards, they just need to be done.

If you want to you can then offer rewards for extras. I've seen this done with a noticeboard with different jobs and the 'wages' pinned to it, they can then choose as many/few jobs as they like.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers @NuffSaidSam thank you. That's a good point that certain things are expected without reward attached. I'll start with defining what these are.

Expectation for them to complete chores is enough. At the beginning you need to ask and remind but it'll become second nature. Parenting is all about helping them become the best adults they can be. My youngest (10) took two years to get into a really good routine but now he wakes, makes his bed, helps me empty the dishwasher, pours his breakfast, rinses his bowl and places it in the dishwasher. He puts his clothes away without asking and puts his dirty clothes in his laundry basket. Making these small things second nature means they'll find it as easy as breathing when they leave home and have to do it all themselves.

@BlackYellowBlue I have 3 teen so from a young age they all have 2 days each with dishes and other 2 see to the dog if not doing dishes no rewards for this.
Ds1 does bins and coal.
All change bedding, put on a wash, put clothes away, sweep floors, everyone helps in a big weekly clean of kitchen bathroom living room. Tidying bedroom Is up to them.
Oldest now at uni, Dd2 has pt job so no picket money. Ds1 is 14 he gets lunch money and extra if going out with friends so no extra for chores.
Agree with above it will come easier when they leave home

Pinterest is really good for this topic, many tables on there showing what chores are suitable for age groups... so you could see 3 that are 'has to be done' and 3 that are extra effort/rewardable.

As far as rewards go, why don't you ask the kids what they'd want? Some are motivated more by screen time, others just want cash.

When I was younger and visiting my older DB and DSIL, they had envelopes on the fridge with a bit of money inside each and a label stating the chore. EG. One held $3 and it said '$3 - clean the litter boxes out', while another was $1 for vacuuming. My younger sister and I then chose which of these tasks we'd do for spending money.

Make it regular

Brook no argument -everyone contributes

Make it age appropriate

Praise

Make it fun sometimes at least

Thank you for your useful replies.

Anyone have tips on how you deal with the kids that won't do their chores?

I give the DC plenty of warning, but generally have an activity that won't start until their chores are done e.g. driving them to an activity, putting on a family film etc.

Depending on age, I think some chores can be daunting, so I absolutely do some things alongside my dc if they are struggling.