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Teadrinker11 · 2022-01-12T21:03:17+00:00

Yourself or someone else, what is the most stingy, mean, miserable thing is that you have ever done or seen someone else do?

Phantom1 · 16/01/2022 01:14

Frayne

I really don't know. Perhaps it's because we don't like confrontation. But we do wonder if she does if it to other friends where she lives.

Toocoldtocamp · 16/01/2022 07:05

@eastegg

Let me rephrase that. No snobbishness intended. If we were snobs why would we have gone. It's a 400 mile round trip!

'We decided to go TO Blackpool for a giggle and stayed IN a B&B'

Blackpool is still great fun. But undeniably it is not without problems. It's not snobby to say that.

The B&B was nice and the owners otherwise friendly (also quite young.. not hardened landlady). But it's no wonder travelodge/premier etc are popular. You don't have to navigate the correct etiquette.

Fraine · 16/01/2022 08:51

@belowaverage

after a family meal with partner, his parents , sister, her husband and 3 kids, partner paid in full and asked for tip contributions, we had had great service and his parents put £40 on table , i put £10 , his sister had went to the bathroom and came back as we were leaving and lifted the tip money and put it in her pocket. I called her out and she said the waitress was already getting paid and didn't need a tip. I demanded the money back and handed over the tip but we have never invited them out again

Bravo! I think you’re the only one on this thread who confronted a tip stealer and got the money back for the staff.

The fact that his sister got a free meal, didn’t contribute to the tip, but then tried to steal the tip is infuriating!

What did your partner say when you told him?

Fraine · 16/01/2022 08:54

@Phantom1

Frayne

I really don't know. Perhaps it's because we don't like confrontation. But we do wonder if she does if it to other friends where she lives.

I deal with people like this by always having cash on me (preferably in £10 and £5 notes).

That way you can tell them you’ve only got enough to pay your own and put your money down.

She is using you, put a stop to it!

Onlinedilema · 16/01/2022 08:55

I've had the tip thing happen to me too.
Took dsd on holiday with us, she was an adult in her early 20s. Dh paid for her entire holiday, all inclusive, because she didn't have a job. Anyway one day we went into the local town and had a drink. When the bill came we all put our own money on the table dsd suggested we leave a tip. I was already annoyed as really it wouldn't have been too much for her to pay the tip seeing as though she had not contributed anything at all to the cost of the holiday. Dh left a tip, dsd immediately picked it up and pocketed it as she 'liked the design of the money!' Totally shocked.
This Christmas she came for lunch, now working in a highly paid job. I told dh to tell her she should bring whatever she wants to drink as she drinks spirits which we dont. Anyway she came I had to pick her up (doesn't drive) didn't bring me a present, contributed zero to the meal, sat and ate the lunch we had provided, drank dhs wine as "she thought she would save the bottle she had brought" then took her drinks home.

mjf981 · 16/01/2022 09:19

@Crikeyalmighty

Here in Denmark we have significant refunds on plastic bottles and cans and you see guys in town going round all day emptying the bins and picking up off streets all day— it’s kind of upsetting , but kind of hearwarming too , as a bin bag full can give you about £8 off a shop.

What is upsetting about this? I think its a brilliant idea.

Muckymaisonette · 16/01/2022 09:22

Many years ago, went on an evening date. Bill came, I had eaten/drunk about £13-14 worth so I put down a £20 note expecting some change back, after tip. My date paid the bill by card and asked for a written receipt that said lunch (“as a salesman I can claim as a business expense”) and pocketed the note. No change for me.

mjf981 · 16/01/2022 09:23

@ILoveToads

I did the shopping for my mum during the first year of Covid.

She asked me if I could also do some for her friend as her daughter usually went but couldn't one week as she caught it.

I said absolutely fine, happy to help, but I was in the office full time as key worker and working 8am-7pm so would be going to the local Sainsburys, confirmed this was ok.

Delivered my mums friends shopping and texted her the cost and my bank details. She paid under the amount and sent a cost comparison of various items which could have been cheaper if I had visited up to 4 different shops (during the time when shelves could be empty and I had to queue for half an hour).

She is a very rich lady by the way, so no need to be so tight. I was quite upset.

I'd have gone mad and told her how rude she was, to her face. This is shocking!

LetHimHaveIt · 16/01/2022 09:29

So would I. That's unthinkable that anyone would be that fucking rude to someone doing them a favour.

rookiemere · 16/01/2022 09:40

I think to be fair those people who weren't able to go to the shops didn't realise how low supplies actually were, and how long you had to queue to get in and get round.
My octogenarian DM is usually not very demanding but left me 3 voice messages when their milk order that I had arranged did not arrive during the pandemic. I managed to get someone I know get one of her teenage DSs to get it ( as she was meant to be shielding) only for DM to ring up afterwards and say how good it was as she was worried she might have had to start using DFs full fat milk which she doesn't like .

Heartofglass12345 · 16/01/2022 10:42

Surely it's obvious from this thread that unless you're really well off and don't care about spending loads of money that we all need to just pay for ourselves when we go out with friends! I've never done rounds with drinks or paid for other peoples meals (apart from the odd time and usually used to buy rounds of shots when I was drunk but that was different )
I just think it's really odd, if it was me and someone else was paying I would be worried about what I was eating/ drinking costing too much. I'd rather pay for my own using what I can afford and I know where I am then!

coodawoodashooda · 16/01/2022 10:45

Yes. I have a change purse for this reason too.

CharityDingle · 16/01/2022 10:46

@Vodkaandgingerale

My PIL are notoriously tight. We called them once and they were describing how they were midst sieving the contents of a jar of coffee, they'd swept up from the floor, that they'd smashed and getting the glass out

Another one was charging us the £1.47 for the tub of sudocrem that we'd forgotten to pack, and they'd had to buy, for DD when they babysat. We went for dinner once and we shared a 3lb chicken between 6 of us. I got a wing for Sunday lunch. All Christmas presents are obtained from the charity distribution centre FIL volunteers at including the 14yr old second hand fleecy underblanket with age old dirt around the packaging, and from a company that went bust 10 years prior.

They are not short of money just incredibly mean.

I would bin them off, tbh. Definitely tell them you don't want their crap as presents.

CharityDingle · 16/01/2022 10:51

@Phantom1

Frayne

I really don't know. Perhaps it's because we don't like confrontation. But we do wonder if she does if it to other friends where she lives.

Not many people 'like confrontation'. Most of us like peaceful lives.

But the reason people get away with horrible behaviour, including stingy behaviour, is that others let them.
I worked with someone years ago, who would leave the pub, once she and her boyfriend had had some drinks bought for them. Never reciprocated.
After a bit, nobody would go out anywhere with the pair of them.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 16/01/2022 12:48

He sat at our kitchen table chatting and drinking tea on arrival. Practically the first thing he did was demand petrol money from her.

I hope you charged him for the cuppa!

What a git.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 16/01/2022 12:54

[quote MrsHunch]@Talipesmum
Been making two good strong cups of tea in big mugs with one for years and it’s completely fine.

That is a picture of two mugs of weak tea![/quote]
Looks fine to me.

I like tea, not creosote.

WestendVBroadway · 16/01/2022 13:29

In my office at work everyone used to leave their own supply of tea, coffee, hot chocolate milk etc. When a new manager started she said (rightly enough) that there was for too much stuff taking up far too much space. So one colleague and I decided that we would bring supplies in and ask for a small donation of 10p per cup so that we could replenish stocks. I am astounded that 2 or 3 people will help themselves but 'forget ' to put money in the honesty jar. These are the same people that whinge when there is not enough milk left at the end of the week.

Whatiswrongwithmyknee · 16/01/2022 14:31

@ilovepixie

When my sister was pregnant I was out for a meal with her and her partner. Her partner ordered his meal with a side order of gravy. He used the gravy and there was still some in the jug, my sis reached for the gravy to get some and he went mad saying it was his gravy and he had paid for it and she couldn't have any! He also used to check the radiators to make sure she didn't have them on while he was at work!

He sounds stingy in other ways but I'd be as protective as this about my gravy. I often add more later and if my DP wanted gravy I'd be very happy for him to order gravy but not for him to help himself to mine.

My stingy story is colleagues goin out for Xmas meal a few years ago. It was something like £20 a head. A few colleagues left early. They left exactly £15 - so left me to pay £2 per head for the service charge. Next time I organised it I had to say the cost is £22 including the service charge. I probably only paid around £10 to cover other's service charges but it wasn't the money that bugged me but the principle. Service charge was not optional and there were no complaints about the service.

Whatiswrongwithmyknee · 16/01/2022 14:32

My OH has a friend who is one of the richest people we know. He has form for 'hanging back' when they go to the bar. He invariably either doesn't get a round then or buys a cheaper round as some people don't want as many drinks or are leaving earlier.

Youdoyoutoday · 16/01/2022 14:40

A friend used to just buy smaller drinks, I always drink a large glass of wine but when he went to the bar, I'd get a small glass. It's not a huge thing but I did find it annoying as I didn't buy him halves and didn't just ask for a large because someone else was paying.

Phantom1 · 16/01/2022 14:42

Frayne

Thanks for that. It's a good idea.

Charity Dingle

Thanks. I'm not surprised!

Ideas please for when we go for coffee. She never offers to pay. Should we give her a £5 and send her to the counter?

coodawoodashooda · 16/01/2022 14:51

@Phantom1

Frayne

Thanks for that. It's a good idea.

Charity Dingle

Thanks. I'm not surprised!

Ideas please for when we go for coffee. She never offers to pay. Should we give her a £5 and send her to the counter?

I can't find your post. What is the problem?

hamsterchump · 16/01/2022 15:17

@Isgooglebroken Thanks but the stuff in the bins is better than the stuff on Olio.

coodawoodashooda · 16/01/2022 16:00

I think I have found it. Id just say I was skint so would have to pay only for my own food.

Phantom1 · 16/01/2022 16:19

coodawoodashooda

None of us are skint. She is a moocher and we are too soft with her. She's always telling me that other friends have treated her and bought her something. Next time we meet up, I'm going to stand my ground with her. I meet with her in London when I go to stay for a few days. So, I have both travel and hotel expenses. Yet, she seems to think that I should pay for her or at least subsidise her in some way. There are other things but it would be outing. Thanks.