Need help we're sinking

[chickychicchic]

Hi everyone

Hubby and I are very different in terms of housekeeping

He is minimalist and I am a creative messy crafter. I am awful and tidying / never have space to put everything and struggle to finish projects

We're at logger heads with each other and it's putting a massive strain on our marriage both have poor MH his much worse than mine and so that's an added stressor

Does anyone have any advice? How can I change? How can he change haha I desperately want to be tidy but I seriously lack motivation/ get distracted and also struggle to find the time around work etc

Got to the point where we are just ignoring it

Only thing I can suggest is that there is an abundance of blogs/podcasts/facebook pages etc etc which help to motivate for cleaning and organising.

A Slob Comes Clean is a blog which takes a very different approach to these as she deals with the mindset and emotion behind it all.

Have a look at a few of these for motivation, thats where I started and now I've got a kind of routine going that I'm happy to live with.

Thanks good idea. 🥰

Do you have space in your home for a dedicated study/craft room for yourself?

Then be strict on not letting stuff creep out of that room.

If your work schedules allow, tidy common areas together for the same amount of time to motivate each other and prevent accusations of one doing more. Like an hour on Saturday morning.

For example my kitchen benches and lounge are clear at the moment.

But I'm sitting in my study where you can't see an empty surface, there are many projects on the go in here, and lots of stuff I've made on dsiplay.

So there's two things going on, tidying and cleaning.

For tidying, I highly recommend watching Marie Kondo if you have Netflix, she talks you through how to clear out and organise.

For cleaning, I'd look up the organised Mum method, the idea being you do a bit each day, rather than try to tackle the entire house in a oner.

It will help to provide a bit of routine as well, which is always a good thing especially in these bizarre times!

A crafting bureau that can close up afterwards hiding the mess (or keep it to one room).

I whole heartedly recommend the organised mum method book, website and app. Totally life changing. If I can do it, anyone can x

Do you have children?

His and hers mancaves

Spare room or garden shed with electricity for a heater and lighting.

House stays tidy. Sorted.

Snap! My husband used to boast he could get all his belongings into a corsa. I love stuff.

Something utterly game changing for me is I have a craft desk. There’s storage and a peg board for tools. Everything has a place. It’s easy to put it back when I’m done. There is still a lot of stuff but it looks slightly neater.

I would LOVE a craft cave, I already have my eye on their bedrooms when the children leave home (the eldest is 8)

Back again. I also realised I buy supplies with the intention of using them but never do. When I have a project I buy all the supplies I need. (I sew, but I keeps loads of fabric just in case).
Realising how I craft made a big difference.

Thanksis everyone some great ideas and glad nothing negative and now LTB which seems to always be a response lol

We are trying to work on the organised mum method and I am working through my craft storage to get organised.

All this should help our MH so working on a. Good routine as well which has never been a strong point for me