Babystep for Day 21 - Tue

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Babystep for Tue Day 21 - Read Ask FlyLady

Mission and sneak peek

Riley challenge

LOL at you all singing dedication yesterday!

I agree with you Flowery, I am, for the most part enjoying FLYing. I can really see how it?s benefiting my home and I really am enjoying all my MN FLYBaby friends company too. It is so motivational to hear that I am not the only one who struggles.

I have to admit that I hardly ever get dressed first thing [holds head in shame]. I get up when DH gets up and get DS as DH dresses and we all go downstairs for breakfast. DH goes to work, I do the washing up and put laundry on in my PJs, then come upstairs to shower, S&S and dress. It?s not quite the FLYLady way, but it seems to be working for us. Before, I didn?t do the chores, and then when I was dressed had to do them, but was then running late for playgroups etc.

It?s much better now!

So, yesterday I finished my routines for the day but I have to ask does anyone else have a hot spot that no matter what stills stays hot???

Anyway, today:

Get dressed done
Make bed done
Put laundry on done
Eat breakfast and clear up, and sweep kitchen done
Check calendar for today's events done
Bathroom swish and swipe done To do
Weekly Home Blessing activity - empty bins, purge magazines/recyclables and put wheelie bins out
Kelly?s Mission - empty and wash out bathroom bin and empty DS bin
2 minute hot spot
5 minute room rescue
15 minutes decluttering

Afternoon Routine
Get dinner started
Set table

Evening Routine
Clear away dinner things
Lay breakfast table
Check calendar for tomorrow's events
Shine sink
2 minute hot spot
Brush teeth
Pick out tomorrow?s clothes

Help I can't do all thse things you are doing on your posts

Morning all.

DS woke at 5:15am this morning , I know I shouldn't complain, at least he is sleeping through. So I am a little weary and lacking in enthusiasm, but at least I came down to a shiny sink.

My big problem is making beds, I have real problems motivating myself to do it. I can't really see the point when no one goes in the room between morning and night. Perhaps I'll feel more like it when the rest of the room is clean and decluttered and the bed is letting it down.

Two sessions of 15 minutes decluttering the airing cupboard has got it all neat and tidy. Think I'll attack the bathroom cabinet next.

DS has to have his third set of jabs today And then we're meant to be going for swimming lessons, but I guess I'll have to see if he's up for it or not.

Hope everyone is having an OK morning.

Morning all

Dressed to shoes and make up done
Make bed done
Hotspot done
Washing on done
Dishwasher emtpy done
Kitchen surfaces cleaned done
Sink shiny done
5 minute room rescue done
Control journal and reminders read done

This afternoon - babystep, 15 minutes declutter, which is going to be ironing, and mission.

Had a much better night last night, hoorah! He was up about 2.30am but DH went to see to him and was only about 5 minutes anyway. Then awake at 6.03 singing to himself and grizzling a bit, eventually took himself back to sleep until 7.

Trinity please don't be put off by all our lists - they look very extensive and scary but they're not I promise. At the beginning I found it helpful not to do a list like I do now, but post with a list of things I had achieved instead, rather than a list of things to do - that way you feel you are getting somewhere rather than thinking OMG there's so much to do I may as well give up.

Cinders my hotspots always stay hot but I reckon they'd be even hotter if I didn't do them for 2 minutes..

Bienchen when you check in, I did answer your holiday thread but could do with some more info about how many days you work and also what the holiday entitlement is for a f/t person if you know it...

cinders your list is so impressive. well done.

You are brilliant at links the riley challenge is a great idea.

check out cinders quotes trinny they've helped me. When it all seems to much. It's called babysteps for a reason!!!! Stop giving yourself such a hard time. [hugs] to you. and good luck.

To do:

paperwork get accounts to post office and in the post finally !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mission bin
ironing atleast a start it is a joke spare room is full of ironing. [sigh]

make dinner shep pie(turned into fish and chips last night )

27 items fling from girls room
hotspots 2 mins each room

catch up on control journel and few old missions

have done:

s&s bathroom
school run
(rushed back for workman who is not here yet!!)
dark wash on
made beds
aired rooms
lit airfreshener from Kuwait that drowns out wiffy shoes in tiny hall !!!

presently drinking coffee and off to start to do list.

cinders very impressed with set table for breakfast that must be so nice

Morning all!!

Trinity don't despair, remember babysteps, a little at a time and then just add another tiny bit to your routine...

Morning
Dress and make up/hair done
Air rooms done
Clear away breakfast stuff done
empty dishwasher done
Empty washing machine done
2 minute hotspot (put dry clothes away) done
Make beds done
Read control journal and reminders done
5 minute room rescue (hang up washing) done
walk dog done
bank and M&S done
Kelly's mission (wash bathroom bin) done
What's for tea? (spaghetti carbonara) done

Afternoon/evening
15 minute decluttering (box in bedroom)
15 minutes for me (do my legs)
Take DS to presentation
Cook tea
Load dishwasher
Load washing machine
Jobsearch ? finish off application
Check calendar for tomorrow

Bedtime
Put dishwasher on
Put washing machine on
Rubbish out
Shine sink
Put clothes out for tomorrow
2 min hotspot (?)
Maybe pack for break?

Trinity, I'm not doing loads - just sink and clothes the night before for now! It sounds like you are already doing masses anyway just keeping up with your 3, but don't have time or headspace to plan tasks in advance or write them down. I bet if you had someone watching you, you'd discover you were doing more than lots of people here anyway, you just don't feel like you're on top of things. The idea of this is to gradually, gradually, gradually start to feel like you're in control rather than just responding, but we are not expected to get there all at once - it's a process, and can be a slow one.

Once I have sink and clothes established as proper, don't-think-about-them habits (and once I'm past 1st trimester of pregnancy and have more energy) I will add in ONE more set-in-stone thing at a time. I'm taking the concept of 'baby steps' VERY seriously. I do 2 min, 5 min and 15 min sessions if I can, but most days at the moment I can't.

I do have a new strategy, which is to add a tiny bit of order wherever I am any time I can - and when I say a tiny bit, I mean a tiny bit - eg pick up ONE mouldy mug on my way to the kitchen ... I count that as a 2 min hotspot right now!! This helps as I'm not aiming to 'tidy up' the house, or even the room, just to move one thing.

And the small things help. I was SO glad I'd done sink and laid out clothes last night, when ds woke up at 6 - meant I could just stagger around 1/2 asleep, shower and get me dressed, and feed him breakfast out of a clean bowl without having to wade through the chaos - at least for that much!

It's not going to plan today - DS's sleep pattern is all up the chute with him waking so early. He's been fighting sleep which means that I have a miserable baby to entertain, hence no time to FLY. I now need to keep him awake so that he has his nap between his jabs at 2pm and swimming at 4:30pm.

Supermonkey - I've only recently started making the children's beds, because they used to have an attic bedroom and I could go days without going up there . In the mornings they came down on their own, and at bedtime dh took them up. I'm quite enjoying all being on one level in a semi, and ds1 has obviously developed an appreciation of his bed being made more often, because the other night he "couldn't go to bed because his bed hadn't been made!"

Can you bring yourself to do the beds knowing that your family will appreciate it, even if no-one sees it?

This morning I have done Monday and Tuesday's bathroom missions. Children's rooms are a bit too hardcore though. And ds2 is asleep in one of them.

A washing machine engineer has just been and established that the noise the machine is making on spin is a result of a missing bolt. When he tried to replace it he discovered that the thread's gone on the bit the bolt goes into - he thinks probably broken by the bloke who 'repaired' the machine 10 days ago. At least I can use the machine; must remember not to set it overnight so we're woken up at 5am by the spin cycle though!

Have cooked, eaten and cleared away lunch for ds2 and me
Load of towels in machine
Will do ironing in front of Neighbours
Need to buy dd an official school cardi (she's the only one in the class wearing a plain green M&S one ) ahead of school photos tomorrow
Still got some Greek homework to do too

I feel like such a mean mum when I take DS for his jabs . He absolutely screamed today (could also be something to do with the fact that he's been awake since 9:15am). Flat out asleep now though so I'm having a cup of tea and an MN before I attack the bathroom bins.

purpleturtle now you've hit the nail on the head re the lack of bed-making motivation - I firmly believe that no-one in this house would appreciate it if I made their bed. I suppose I could try and see if anyone notices.

Right - made all their beds, lets see if any of them actually appreciate it

I really like to see a made bed when I glance into the tip that is a child's bedroom. So my primary motive is selfish. Just so happened that ds1 likes it!

Well done, though Supermonkey.

Done mission and ironing, now I'm knackered and DS is getting grizzly.

I love getting into a made bed - it's great. And it makes any mess elsewhere in the bedroom really stand out so you find yourself trying to be tidy! Definitely worth 2 minutes in the morning.

Haven?t done any more FLYing since last post! Had DS weighed, he?s 10.2 kg (which is what 22.5 lb ?). Been out for lunch, very nice, took DS to swimming lesson and sorted out some e-mails.

Just wanted to say to TrinityRhino ? I came in on an earlier baby steps thread that were half way through and know exactly how you feel. It is so daunting seeing these lists!

The only way to get here is to take babysteps. We are all on day 21. We?ve been doing this for three weeks constantly now!

You really have got to start at day 1 and don?t try anything else that day. Then, if you feel up to it, the next day, do day 2. Honestly, don?t try to jump in here at day 21! You?ll just feel overwhelmed and then give up.

Start with day 1! We?ll be here to talk it through with you!

Or do what I did and start a brand new baby steps thread. See if anyone wants to start baby stepping with you on day 1 and go for it on Monday? We?d love to keep you here with us though!

And Flowery has it right. Sit down and write a list of what you have done today. I?ll bet you?ve done more than you realise!!!

Hello everyone - sounds like lots of good work going on ...hope mini-monkey isn't too rough after his jabs!
I agree with cinders, Trinity, that it might be worth going back to step one, and set up the habits. If you can, stay on with us though, just keep plugging away & ignore our silly long lists, like SA is doing - I think that approach is fab

On the silly long list front ... dd was up at 5.20 again, and woke ds, but I decided to make the most of it, so by 7am we were all dressed, I'd done my 15 mins (cleared the bathroom window-sill, which was a tip, wiped off all the mildew , cleaned the bath, taken sheets off the kids beds & put on a wash, and sorted out the dishwasher.
Lord, I was proud of myself - I tried to come on here and show off share with you all, as you were the only people sad enough to care you are my special fly-mates... but my wi-fi's playing up!

LOL only people sad enough to care!!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/2430/407468?rnd=1192563180044

Sorry Wed here

Well I just flipped and shouted "does no one care that I've made their beds?!?"

Oh Monkey

I'm sure they all appreciate your efforts really....

It is nice for you getting into a made bed though, maybe focus on that

Evening all.

I still have far too many hotspots, lol, but what I started doing was joining them up, lol, so I'd do a couple of minutes, but then move the rest to join up another spot. Ok they're not cleared, but it's one pile rather than two iykwim.

Don't worry about making the bed either, (no point with DH being left in it more often than not) but even if he isn't, I just turn it down to air, rather than making it anyway. IF I go back up later, then I may pull the duvet back into place.

Trinity, I'm still doing the bare minimum, but honestly it makes a difference. One day at a time, one step at a time.

Hope mini-monkey (like that name) is ok after his jabs sm.

Mine wouldn't notice either sm.