Help hoarder

[woopdedoodle]

a family member is a hoarder, and we have reached the crunch point. How do you get them to see its not normal, and they have to do what the rest of us do.

Some information here.

www.helpforhoarders.co.uk/family-and-friends/

www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/hoarding/for-friends-and-family/

www.nhs.uk/conditions/hoarding-disorder/

It depends on the 'crunch point', tbh.

If they have to move to residential care, most of it could be binned.

If they're downsizing and want to bring it all with them, then you'll have a massive headache.

Kids in care. House condemned sort of crunch point. They are skipping round bright as a button its all a big misunderstanding we are trying not to blow our collective tops.
I'll have a read through those links, thank you.

I sympathize. I have a close family member who is a hoarder. Sadly, very few people with this condition ever recover

Does she own the property?

We understand they own the property but dont know the mortgage situation .grandparents hoping it can be sorted out by September., and kids can go back for school. I think fat chance, we will be lucky hoarder doesn't end up on the street. We've been here before, skips, church groups, social services, family interventions, nothing works. And when there are children you just haven't the time to cajole the hoarder.

That sounds dreadful, how old are the kids and what is hoarded? Presume that things must be very unsafe/unsanitary for kids to have been removed. Is there any possibility of finding a psychologist that specialises in hoarding?

This time they are teenagers, and at least have their own voices.

It's a dirty hoard, I've stood in the kitchen watching as fly papers, and sprays are used, and listened to the voice complaining they don't work and its a mystery as to where the flies come from while bags of rubbish and rotting food cover every surface.

When the children were little there was a concerted campaign to get them regarded as disabled, I've argued with social services that they weren't and thankfully we won that battle. Although that meant the support group for parents of disabled children dropped the hoarder like a hot potato when they realised what was going on. I fear the new group of friends that are being collected by SS , as support, will also slip away when they actually get in the house.

A few more years and they will all be out of school, hopefully uni bound or skilled apprenticeships like all the cousins and free to live their own lives.

That does sound awful indeed. Are the children happy to be out of the home? Is there any chance they could settle with wider family or friends?

Basically without specialist help u don’t think there is anything you can do

I know, there is nothing we can do for our hoarder, it has to come from them. And yes they do need specialist help.

The kids will be fine, the wider family are all rallying. Its just killing us that we cant grab the bin bags and get stuck in.

it's comforting to feel I'm not completely off beam with my analysis of the situation.