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Decluttering one thing a day - Part 9

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SandAndSea · 08/10/2019 00:11

Welcome to our 9th thread in the Decluttering One Thing A Day series!

As you might imagine, we aim to get rid of one thing a day (or the equivalent, if we miss a few days).

The idea is that aiming low in this way prevents us from getting overwhelmed. It's also sustainable so helps us to develop effective clutter clearing habits which last.

In reality, many of us have found that once we start, we often get rid of far more than just one thing. (But if we don't, that's OK too.)

Everyone's welcome! We're a friendly and supportive bunch, from aspiring minimalists to full-on clutterbucks! We're also pretty green so you'll find lots of recycling, freecycling, donating and selling.

Previous thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/housekeeping/3612006-Decluttering-one-thing-a-day-part-8-the-one-where-we-de-tetris-the-cupboard-of-doom?pg=1&order=

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Coldhandscoldheart · 06/11/2019 04:57

Good to see everyone carrying on.
The other thing about the waste of money - I donate cash to very few charities after streamlining my accounts - I see donating stuff, especially good stuff (is there anyone who hasn’t felt the shame of donating bnwt?) as a way of giving to charity.
In my head I call it tithing, but it’s probably nothing like a tenth.

Anyway. It’s my day off tomorrow so I’m planning my busy day mostly of packing (including, grr, repacking some boxes DH did) also cleaning.
We’ve agreed that some really cosy footmuffs aren’t selling on gumtree & could be donated.
I really want to get my eyebrows done. That’s right next to the baby charity shop actually, so that could work.
I still haven’t bought new shoes.

Tidy2018 · 06/11/2019 09:02

It really makes a huge difference to read all these great posts, and know I’m not alone.. thank you everyone.

A rather odd thing happened after my post yesterday. Within a few minutes, my decluttering mojo lurched into gear and I was thudding about in the office-cupboard once again.

One of the results of the past few years of stress is lots of working-memory problems. I was both shocked and thrilled that the stack of boxes I hadn’t dared open turned out to be empty. I’ll keep the boxes until the churning is finished and the proper decluttering is well underway.

I put the bubble wrap and other packaging in bags which take up far less space than the box in the kitchen. Dragged out a tub of small cars for sorting later. Uncovered three bags of play sand that I’d totally forgotten about. Maybe we can have a sand tray somewhere, but the potential mess worries me.

In another cupboard I found a couple of never-worn fleecy hoodies. I knew I’d seen them before and, right enough, there were some more in a box in DH’s sitting-room. Ashamed to say that this room has become a dumping-ground over the past few years. The hoodies are another example of me buying double. I did it with school uniform recently. Saw the clothes in the supermarket, liked them, bought them, put them in a corner for sorting later, saw them again in the supermarket a week or two later, forgot I had some at home, bought them, etc, etc......

Kids tried on the hoodies, one was too tight and will be donated. I wrote “ too tight for .....” on a piece of masking tape, stuck it on the hoodie, and it shouldn’t wander back into a wardrobe...

After all that, my one decluttered item is a hoodie.

StealthNinjaMum · 06/11/2019 09:47

Thanks medwaymum it wasn't really discussing your problems and I don't want to add the pressure as you already have a lot on which I think I was trying to say. Even without years of clutter it is difficult to keep on top of jobs like laundry and paperwork so like I said I try to have a temporary place or just process them a bit differently. But you do need to be kind to yourself, you are doing amazingly and have a lot on.

I agree it is easier when dc are on board. Mine do a couple of things but I'm gradually adding to the list. Even just putting their shoes and coats in the cupboard makes a big difference to the hall. They prefer living in a tidy house too where they can find things - not that it's a show house but it is better than it was.

It's a good idea to put stuff in the car, I am going to do that today and aim to get it to the charity shop in the next few days.

StealthNinjaMum · 06/11/2019 09:55

tidy2018 sounds like you did incredibly well. I would be tempted to get rid of the boxes now. I used to log how many 'carrier bags' I got rid of (I visualised a full ocado carrier bag) and when I started this used to get rid of one a day. I got rid of over 1000 and got bored logging it! There is something in seeing carpet and surfaces and walls without clutter that makes a room look bigger which is why I would clear the box out - but obviously you need to do what works for you.

I have been clearing away some of the stuff that I was sorting through yesterday. I have tidied away lots of stationery and thrown away a handful of old papers. The dining room surfaces are a lot clearer - but I probably should spend a couple of hours filing and can't quite fit that in the diary this week unless I get a burst of energy after dc go to bed ( that's unlikely).

PenelopeFlintstone · 06/11/2019 12:04

I’ve been procrastinating about these shoes for, what I realise now is, years. They are expensive, good brand, the perfect height, beautiful soft-but-not-too-soft leather. However........my little toenail catches on the gap and I can’t really wear them.

I decided to sell them and here they’ve sat. Today I decided to take photos for eBay, turned them over and saw this! The soles have perished and now they’re no good for anyone. What a waste.

So, there’s another reason to take our stuff to the charity shop while someone else can use it, as I previously quoted from my favourite youtuber Grin

Decluttering one thing a day - Part 9
Decluttering one thing a day - Part 9
PenelopeFlintstone · 06/11/2019 12:14

The shoes are still out though, as they went in the bin.

Coldhandscoldheart · 06/11/2019 13:56

I need to remember the enormous bag of baby bottles can be sorted into recycling and bin - tommee tippee eventually replied & the bottle bit can be recycled.

Times10 · 06/11/2019 14:52

No significant outs recently, apart from tons of bits of papers the DCs have been drawing on. The living room was full of them, on the floor, table and basically everywhere.

I need to make a list of the hotspots as there’s some areas that definitely need decluttering soon, before they spread even more.

We picked up a cot, and a new mattress, but now need to do some furniture moving, as we STILL don’t have the space to set it up. As this was one of the reasons for decluttering, I am a bit annoyed that we haven’t yet reached the level needed to create the space!

Bluewavescrashing · 06/11/2019 15:03

12 items went to the charity shop today. I bought 2 books for DD and was not tempted by the clothes. I really have far too many.

Vinorosso74 · 06/11/2019 16:26

Took some of the things to the charity shop today-I couldn't carry everything so the rest will go to a different charity shop. Got rid of an item which was a freebie.
Bedroom still messy but I don't feel so bad about it today.
Something I am doing successfully is once something is finished with it's going away immediately or bin/recycling/charity bag as appropriate.

SandAndSea · 06/11/2019 19:24

Well done everyone!

My one thing today is a tired, old nightie.

I'm also getting rid of a pair of old curtains but they have been replaced.

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Bluewavescrashing · 06/11/2019 19:37

I need to cull my pyjama collection and buy new ones

BrutusMcDogface · 06/11/2019 19:41

Hi! It’s taken me ages to catch up on this thread!

Sounds like good progress is being made 👍

I’m concentrating on thr laundry. I’m embarrassed to count the loads that need doing but I’m chugging through, and hoping to get rid of lots and lots of clothes once they’re all clean and we can see what we have!!

StealthNinjaMum · 06/11/2019 21:12

penelope that's heartbreaking to throw something like that away. But is something to think about when we hoard things that we really don't need that we're stopping someone else from enjoying them.

I took three bags of stuff to a charity shop and chucked out one more papers from the dining room. I also ate some left over Halloween sweets that belonged to my children I also took photos of some toys to sell. I'm not in for the next couple of days so don't want to post them to sell yet - perhaps I'll do it on Facebook on Saturday. I really procrastinate over taking photos of things and putting them on Facebook so I've at least done half the job.

Tidy2018 · 06/11/2019 21:21

Stealth ninja - I know, I know, in my head I totally agree about getting the empty boxes out, but in my heart I just can’t for now. Most are Lego boxes which are a useless shape for storing the Lego, but they help me remember how much fun we had seeing them unwrapped and helping make the stuff. I might cut the fronts off and stick them on the wall, though. That might be a halfway solution for now.

And if anyone’s wondering why I don’t just enjoy watching them playing with the models, well I mostly do, but get anxious about any tiny pieces that fall on the carpet and may end up in the hoover. Only this morning I was on my hands and knees, sifting through the contents of the Dyson. Yuck, lol!

LG (Little Girl) begs me for big boxes. Melon boxes for boats, etc. The big box that’s most recently emptied is about two foot in every dimension and she wants it for a den. I really can’t say no, can I? :-)

Tidy2018 · 06/11/2019 21:27

Today’s decluttering concentrated on children’s outgrown clothes and shoes. Some hardly worn, due to double buying, during my horrible year last year.

Two pairs gym shoes
Two pairs furry boots
Four pairs school shoes
One pair glittery party shoes
Three summer jackets.

Also decluttered one errand - forms completed and taken to school

Hoping to continue in the same vein tomorrow.

KisstheTeapot14 · 06/11/2019 21:42

Help me with random papers and books - 'interesting' (to me) newspaper articles fill bags behind sofa ...

Clothes and shoes am quite good at ridding, toys not bad.

Paper based stuff is my bete noire, get caught up in sifting through and reading. What are your strategies? I'm a mad old lady hoarder in the making...maybe I should ask DH to just take it all away and throw in recycle bin! I used to think these things good for my writing but they get in the way of it as they suck up time.

On the plus side, 2 bedding sets now going to friend with younger kids and a coat of DS's washed and ready to move on.

Custardcreamfiend · 06/11/2019 21:52

I managed to find another empty box to declutter today. DH and I also went through a box of pictures that belonged to PIL. About half have been earmarked to go but I'm not sure whether they're in good enough condition for the charity shop. I also remembered to make dentist appointments for the DC so that's one thing decluttered from my mental to do list.

Vinorosso I've also got into the habit of bringing empty bottles out of the bathroom when I'm in there, putting things away when I've done with it and recycling the DC's 'artwork' quickly. I'm trying to stop the day to day clutter building up too much.

SandAndSea · 06/11/2019 23:18

Hi, @KisstheTeapot14! Welcome to the thread and well done on what you have done! I would congratulate yourself for what you're doing and keep focussing on those easy wins. It can really help to get into the habit of decluttering and start to feel really good about it. Over time, it can become easier to get rid of those things which are currently harder for you.

Another approach could be to take photos of the newspaper articles (or whatever).

Or, would it help to remind yourself that you can probably find them online if you want to read them?

I find that asking myself certain questions can help. (No need to answer me, these questions are for you.) Eg:

What if you had a leak or a spill and they were all ruined? How would you feel then? Would you mind never being able to read them? Or, would you feel relieved to be free of them?

What are you keeping them for? Do you even want to read them? How do you feel about letting yourself off from the need/pressure (whatever) to read them?

What if someone took the newspapers away - would you miss them? Or would you feel relieved?

If I think I will regret getting rid of things, I wait and focus on the things I'm ready to let go of. Tonight, I shredded something my mum gave me a few weeks ago. It was a formal document from the 70s which she had been hoarding. I think that giving it to me was her way of getting rid of it, without fully getting rid of it, if you know what I mean. I've kept it for a few weeks but I really don't want it. It was old and tired and not a good memento for me. I've got lots of other things to remind me of her which I feel a good, happy connection with. I don't need that scrappy old thing which was never even mine! So, I shredded it and it's gone and I feel relieved to be free of it. Getting to this point was a process for me. (There are other things I'm still not ready to part with though.)

Hope this helps.

(Please get rid of the newspapers and report back asap. You really don't need them!)

Grin
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Coldhandscoldheart · 07/11/2019 04:54

@KisstheTeapot14 you’ve said it yourself! You used to think they help your writing, now you see they hinder it by sucking up time!

You have all my sympathy though, paper is bad for me too (I think I get this from my mother).
I can tell you my horrible newspaper confession of long ago if You like.

I am up at 3:30 for my busy day. Had a horrible dream last night & somehow I’m going to have to try to fit in a nap. Or power through, not sure which.

Coldhandscoldheart · 07/11/2019 04:56

Bugger also @BrutusMcDogface as you sort the washing out of the dryer or whatever I have found it’s worth having your recycling bag to hand, some things can go straight in without a second thought.

Tidy2018 · 07/11/2019 06:15

Here is how I culled about 20-25% of my books. What worked for me to a certain extent was to consider a particular genre or author, and ask myself whether they still served their original purpose. Also, I realised that some were a reflection of what was going on in my life at that time, and would drag me back to that time. Not great for my mental health. I used to put them in a pile, write a few sentences about what they meant to me, then ignore it until the emotional connection withered away. It was a difficult processs, but well worth it in the end.

Magazines and cuttings were more difficult in different ways. By their very nature they were more immediately topical, and out of date faster. But, as I gradually learned to google, listen to radio and audiobooks and now podcasts, I reduced the piles. I still have boxes of cuttings, but I know what’s in them and they are clearly labelled for anyone who has to get rid of them.

I still have walls lined with bookshelves. I always will. But the books I’ve kept are the ones that bring me pleasure, rather than burden me. Sometimes I think I declutter in my sleep. I waken up with the thought that xyz no longer serves a purpose, and it’s time to release it.

That got a bit deep for first thing in the morning! But I just wanted to share my minor success.

IWillWearTheGreenWillow · 07/11/2019 06:54

Hello KissTheTeapot14! Sounds like you're doing well. One of the most freeing things I did when I gave up accountancy was recycling the huge bags of technical reading from behind the sofa. I'd taken them with me on maternity leave with DC1, thinking I'd have loads of time to read! Blush

Brutus good luck with the washing. That is definitely my bête noire - skip it for a day and I'm up to my eyeballs in it!

Cold, 3.30am is a brutal time to get up. Good luck getting through today.

Yesterday's out was a bottle of shower gel of DH's that I finished as bath bubbles for me. The day before's was my silicone gingerbread house mould. We made one the year I bought it, the children had a huge argument over decorating it, and then we couldn't eat it because it went stale quick and no-one liked the gingerbread. Can't think why I've held onto it for 10 years, except that I felt it signified being the kind of mother who made such things.

I've been thinking about the discussed difference between day-to-day and longer term clutter. I'd not realised before they were different things but you are right, Sand, Stealth and Medway, they are and they need treating differently. I've got daily clutter in the kitchen down to a 10 minute pass through in the morning, but longer term stuff takes more emotional thought. Today I am going to try Tidy's approach to some books of my DF's - I love them because I associate them with him, but they are not him and I haven't read any of them in at least 15 years. Some I've never read, because Robert Ludlum as a genre gets very formulaic very quickly. And I haven't the brain for Umberto Eco any more.

IWillWearTheGreenWillow · 07/11/2019 09:03

And 2 outs already this morning - a body scrub pot and a body butter pot, because I was actually paying attention while I got washed and dressed!

afternoonspray · 07/11/2019 09:08

Please can I join in. I have to declutter. Yesterday I threw out three pairs of shoes that I've been meaning to throw out for about two years!

Today I am bagging up some old coats to take to a warm coat drive at Waterloo next week. Not sure what to chuck today, but something will go!