There are wider issues in our relationship, but we are having to continue living together for the foreseeable future.
However, his "way" of doing things I find intolerable. So, after eating a meal that I have prepared, he will wash up, but will begin washing up before clearing the table! So DCs and I are sat amongst dirty plates whilst trying to do homework/reading after meal times at the table. I always end up clearing the mess, whilst DCs struggle for my help and attention but this is supposed to be his job if I've made the meal.
Similarly, he will begin clearing the kitchen before giving the children their fruit after their meal and they sit around waiting for it. I am often helping them with homework, but again find myself getting it because DH refuses to give them some fruit before he's washed up the pans.
When we go on holiday, he will begin loading up the car before we've finished packing, half empty bags get loaded into the car and then he ends up doing 10 dashes instead of 2 loading everything else on top of the bags that aren't yet filled.
It drives me nuts.
Surely it makes sense to clear one task before moving on to the next?
He tells me everyone does it differently and that I can't expect everyone to be like me, but surely his way just makes more work and more chaos? He has on occasion forgotten the dinner plates at the table after he has "finished" washing up. He says it's no big deal as he then goes on to wash them, but I'm fed up of getting up to do it myself as me and the DCs don't want to sit amongst the clutter of dishes when doing schoolwork/ chatting about our day around the table.
He is as stubborn as a mule and refuses to change the way he does things and sulks when he's called out for it.
Would his "way" of doing things drive you crazy too?