Is there still a disorganised procrastinators thread?

[Jenniferyellowcat]

Because I need one.

I don’t feel I can relate to any of the decluttering/kondo/flylady threads when I can’t even get my basic shit together like filling out school forms. My head is a jumble of undone stuff. I am beginning to wonder if I have some sort of pathetic loser disorder.

Anyone else?

Is this www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3534297-easy-self-care-and-organisation-thread?pg=2 any good?

Hi 👋

There are quite a few of us on the flylady thread- disorganised procrastinators that is😉

Oh god I need a thread like this so much right now!
You sound just like me Jennifer

Definitely a disorganised procrastinator here

Fellow disorganised procrastinators- look up ADHD in adults.

If you don't feel hyperactive fits you - look up inattentive ADHD.

It was a revelation for me!

That "jumble of undone stuff" feeling is sometimes called having "open loops" I.e. the beginning of a thought in your head but it's incomplete. Too many of those and we all get stuck and a bit panicky - like too many tabs open on your browser! Naturally this is not the whole solution, but a great first step is to decide how you're going to get them out of your head and recorded - whether that's a notebook, a blackboard, an ap, or whatever appeals. Try a few things until you find one you can get on with and can't ignore or allow to be buried under other stuff.

One other trick is to try and tie a new habit onto an old one, so to pick something you already do such as have a cup of tea when you get in from school runs, and bolt onto that "going through the week's diary and filling in school forms". Some days there won't be any action needed, but you'll have built in that checking system, if you see what I mean? Linking it to an existing pattern of behaviour makes it much easier for our brains to adopt it as a new habit and sustain it.

Fellow disorganised procrastinators- look up ADHD in adults.
If you don't feel hyperactive fits you - look up inattentive ADHD

There is also a lot of cross over with DCD (dyspraxia).

psychology.research.southwales.ac.uk/media/files/documents/2014-04-04/ACD_checklist.pdf

I am certain I have dyspraxia (self diagnosed) but have wondered increasingly about ADHD (inattentive) which can run alongside dyspraxia. I am not sure if there are any benefits to being diagnosed as an adult, so have not been to the GP.

I've recently been diagnosed. In my local area they offer medication.

Knowing I have ADHD means I can research it with confidence it's actually relevant to me, not just a what if.

Sorry I meant to say they only offer medication.

I was going to say "ADHD?' too -I'm procrastination central.

Hello fellow disorganised procrastinators! Sorry for my delayed reply. I assumed it must just be me so didn’t check for a bit

Inattentive ADHD, hmm... I have never heard of this. But from a quick look, it actually describes me (and my DD) very well...

I have always just thought I am a bit of a muppet tbh. I didn’t achieve my potential at university, also due to lack of focus. I have had a string of half started ‘careers’. My house is either a complete shitheap or I spend a day tidying it and don’t go out or do anything else because it has stressed me out so much. Everyone else I know seems so sorted, even when they claim to be stressed. They remember all the basics and their children don’t complain they have yet again forgotten their guitar/snack/water bottle!

The too many browser tabs comment describes how I often feel very well. (And I am always shutting down tabs at work for the same reason!). I just get really overwhelmed quite often and I react by switching off.

I will check out the flylady thread if you are all on there! And the other one - thank you.

Good god that too many tabs open is a brilliant way to describe how I feel. I am a terrible procrastinator and I very rarely finish any job in one go. I'm the same at work, I flit from one thing to another and find it very hard to stay focused. I've also had lots of different jobs. At home I manage to keep on top of a few rooms and most things like paying bills on time but right now I'm in a bedroom that looks it belongs to a teenager. When I manage to get things tidy and get jobs done it's such a lovely feeling, I feel an enormous weight is lifted. There are some little things I do when I remember that help (touch it once for instance) but I'd love to be different.

I’m on the Flylady thread . We are lovely, even if I do say so myself, and I can certainly relate to having too many tabs open .

I have always just thought I am a bit of a muppet tbh. I didn’t achieve my potential at university, also due to lack of focus. I have had a string of half started ‘careers’. My house is either a complete shitheap or I spend a day tidying it and don’t go out or do anything else because it has stressed me out so much. Everyone else I know seems so sorted, even when they claim to be stressed. They remember all the basics and their children don’t complain they have yet again forgotten their guitar/snack/water bottle!

I could have written this! I thought I was just generally shit at life until I discovered I have ADHD.

It's always me who's forgotten it's mufti day at school. My house? Let's not even talk about that! I get annoyed with people go assume people who are always late are lazy. They have no idea how much I've struggled to get there only 5 minutes late not 25!

How I wish I was siting around doing something I wanted to do and strolling in 5 minutes late because I'd been having a nice time elsewhere! Not frantically running around the house, trying to brush my hair while searching for clothes that look vaguely respectable from various piles, finding missing shoes (my missing shoes, not even got on to the kids!) then realising I have to transfer money into my bank account because I've lost the card to the one that actually has money in it etc etc. All of this disorganisation and chaos is exhausting! But I'm constantly playing catch up, I never get to the top of the pile.

This is typical of ADHD. It's not all bad though. It's also responsible for your creative thinking / ability to come at problems from a different angle to others.

And, the fact you can (I'm hazarding a guess) cope well under stress when others lose it.

Check out these Ted talks, see if they chime with you at all: