So once you've decluttered , how to get rid of it?

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I am going to DParents , I will be doing a load of de-cluttering. Mainly DMum room .

I won't be taking my own car . My DDad does drive but he's 82 with a small motor.

So, is a Man-with-a-Van the best option?
Do they have a professional licence to take stuff to the dump?
I;ve been (in my car) with Dad , he took his proof of address. but finding my way round all the refuse points was a nightmare and hard work (and my Dad is 82)

I'd need to gather everything to work out the load.

(I looked online , theres one near them that does house moves , Gumtree pick ups etc)

Or , do I hire a van myself? Then I can take my time over the rental period . Though I'm loathe to rent , I had bloody nightmares getting my deposit back after another driver hit my last rental.

My Dad will happily potter off to the Charity shop with any smallish amounts , in fact he'll be in all the bags insisting I give him something to do

Weather is an issue too, last year was Beast From the East terrtitory !

Leaving it at their house is not an option, my DMum will take everything back into the house .
TIA.

Hire a skip

Get skip delivered early morning and removed later on that evening or next day

Hire a skip for rubbish, contact a local scrappy who’ll come and collect any metal, if there’s a lot of charity stuff it may be worth contacting one local to your parents to see if they’ll pick up. But yeah, skip or skip bags.

Get friends to help. This worked really well for me as they were able to be more objective about it all.

My Dad wouldn't entertain a skip unfortunately , no idea why .
They only get the bins picked up every 3 weeks .so limited what I can cram in there .

This needs to be Stealthy like the SAS .

I am dealing with hoarding tendancy here , not rational folk

If DDad can donthe driving, can you just fill black sacks and get him to do the dump runs?

That way nothing is left around long enough for DMum to re claim.

I need to avoid my Dad driving as much as possible . And I have a dodgy back to go with his advanced years !

How much stuff are you talking? Size? Why can't you take your own car?

Most tips won't accept vans unless they are registered as busineeses and therefore pay the necessary fees so probbaly not worth hiring one. Is any of it sellable? Some charity shops collect

Skip is the answer easier and will be taken away , vans not allowed to the local tip height restrictions.

I don't know exactly how much till I get there are start the declutter . Last time we took a full car (mine -bootfull+ back seat) to the skip and maybe 3-4 charity shop trips . Ikea bags full, those big Sports Direct bags .(Done on different days)

My Dad will take a bag on the bus happily ( he likes o get out and about)

I don't want the drive TBH, its a good 9 hours +

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Looks like a van hire then. At least I can gauge the amount and hire for a day?

Ah, no vans at the dump?
Bum.

Rethink .

He's probably against the skip because he knows she'll go ballistic if she can see how much stuff is going and try to climb in to get it all back out again.

The only way to get it all out is to take it on the same day. No faffing about with charity shopping (partly because that reinforces the idea that their shit has value), just get it out and get it binned.

Ring the local charity shops and see if they will come and pick stuff up.

Bag up all the rubbish and take it in a couple or trips, or join local fb pages near your parents. Our local pages are full of 'man with a van, no job too small' ads and see if they will come and clear any rubbish. Obviously they should have the relevant licenses too.

Fill car with the black sacks and then you drive fathers car to the local tip?

Its quite expensive to hire a skip. Especially if it's just knick and knacks and clothes you're getting rid off. I understand now about having to do it in one day as you don't live locally to them. I think the easiest thing is just bin bag most of it and dump in the 'house hold' waste part. I don't there will be an easy option

If you have the time then Freecycle it and then people will come pick it up for you. You’d be surprised what people will take. Just be prepared to upload pics and arrange collection times/dates.

Some tips will accept a van if you have proof of local residence and book in advance to bring one, worth checking the council website. Otherwise could your dad put you on the insurance for his car so you can do a tip run or two? Or failing that just hire a big estate car for a day and you'll for loads in...

I don't think eBay or Freecycle would work for them .
Some of their stuff is useable though, I got a load of kitchen ware to the charity shop last time .

Its difficult , I can't go in mob handed , trying to convince my DMum to get things out of the house for her own safety is the best way forward.

There were literally dozens of cookbooks that we took. She had about four "Cook With Herbs" books . How many herb books does someone need? My Dad won't throw these in recycle "Someone might like these"

DMum used to collect things , not in a nice selective way ( it was plants, teapots, cruet sets, clocks,cookbooks) , every time she went out to a charity shop she bought something.

Now she's really imobile . But she has this STUFF and she's had falls.

I might hire a car then and buy the extra insurance . If it gets a bump, it gets a bump.

Can you hire a big estate car and just load bags straight into the boot? I appreciate it will cost more but might well be the easiest thing.

Pay to be added to your dad's insurance for the day? Last time I was added to my brothers insurance for the day it cost about £20.