Argh house is a mess, had enough - anybody else?

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Im sick of my house being a mess. I feel like a spend all my time cleaning and sorting and. Tidying and don't get anywhere. Its stuff like piles of clean laundry thAt never seem to make it to the wardrobes, mess the dogs make (toys, chews etc constantly being spread everywhere).

Plus general mess of 4 kids, 2 dogs and a hamster.

I would love a tidy home but littally never have one.

Ditto.

It's so depressing.

It never ends. I did a huge collection for the charity shop and that has helped. Then I batch cook so if I am making a casserole I cook tonnes and freeze.
Little things help a lot.

Ive been decluttering for years and getting there but the ultimate issue is there is too much coming in, so although the constant flow out helps, its so hard to keep on top if it. We have a large family so every time one of the kids have a birthday there is a huge amount of new stuff coming in. Eldest DD is a hoarder and forms an emptional attachment to absolutely everything.

I just feel so overwhelmed and annoyed about it all. I grew up in a messy house and swore i woudnt have the same for my kids. But i have.

Im lonely as I cant have anybody round with it like this. Everybody elses houses seem immaculate all the time.

I am very slowly getting on top of it. I have started small: the dishwasher HAS to go on every night and be unloaded in the morning so that I don't come down to depressing carnage. I've been doing that for three weeks and it has made a massive difference.

I am now adding in a load of laundry a day, but it HAS to be put away same day.

After another 3 weeks I am going to add in something else.

Also, sorting out spills as soon as they happen. And trying my best to PUT THINFS BACK. I'm working on the 21 days to form a habit theory...

I was going to say similar to DesertIsland it’s all about daily habits, and once they become habits you don’t notice they’re doing them so although you’re still cleaning every day it doesn’t feel like it
Also get everyone involved, how old are your children?

I am a bit OCD about housework/ tidiness. I feel anxious if house is a mess. Can cope with a bit of dirt, just not untidiness! I work long hours, 3 kids and a dog. Dishwasher goes on everyday and unloaded every morning. Washing gets put away mostly straightaway. Kids things go in their bedrooms so I am not surrounded by their mess. I would rather go to bed half an hour later and spend that time tidying up or having a quick hoover/ clean than leave it to the next day. We have a big house, no cleaner and it is not spotless by any means. It's what works for me. Disadvantage about having lots of space, is you hoard stuff in cupboards! Trying to get better at culling old clothes, toys etc but that is an area I struggle ziti!

This has spurred me into a quick wipe around the kitchen, so thanks for that! Spotted a couple of out of date things while I was tidying bottles away in the larder so I feel quite pleased with myself now.

One of our biggest problems was dealing with recycling. Our wheelie bins were recently replaced with ones that even Polly Pocket would think were a bit small, so the kitchen became a shrine to recycling with piles of it waiting for DS to take out. Bought a trofast unit and now it's still in the kitchen but tidy and out of my way. It is astonishing how much recycling we generate in a week, even cooking from scratch!!

Our house is the same, and is the only real cause of dp and I falling out

Feels like shovelling snow in a storm, though....

It's definitely also a cause of arguement in my house. I get moaned at beacuse im the stay at home parent. But im doing my best. I have got in the habit of doing the washing up before there is more than one sinkfull. And that helps. As I can wash it and leave it to drain in the draining board while i do something else, rather than having too much washing up to fit on the drainer.

And laundry I wash daily, tends to go straight in the machine and then when full i turn on. But its putting away that I hate and always have no motivation for. Probably because the wardrobes are full and messy but i never get the spare time to sort through it. I actually enjoy decluttering, but its having spare time left after the essential jobs thats hard. 3 kids have medical needs so often my would be child free time is taken up with appointments, paperwork or general organising all their stuff that cant wait.