when your dc, and dh, have no respect for the hardwork you put in

[stitch]

is there any point in doing ironing, or cleaning, or tidying?
what sit all about really?

I know how you feel. My lot don't appreciate it at all, although they will notice if the washings NOT done, the d/washer NOT emptied, the cupboards empty of food. So why do we bother, in my case because i don't like a dirty/untidy home, i can't relax if it is like that. Saying that, i used to be much tidier and organised when the kids were babies/toddlers, i had a routine and a desire to get it all done and organised. Now, because the rest of them aren't appreciative i am kind of losing enthusiasm!

i have lsot all enthgusiasn for it.
house going further and further into stagnations.
cleaner darling coming tomorrow. hopefully shewill make it better. but there is a limit to how much she can do in the hours i pay her.

DC too young to care but 16 month old DS is pretty good at tidying his toys away by himself
DP notices what hasn't been done, rather than what has, which causes endless arguements.

How old are your children stitch? Mine are secondary school age so I expect them to do things that are age appropriate i.e. wash the cars, brush the cat, put away the clothes I've washed, dried, ironed and placed in their rooms etc. Have you seen the daily FLY threads in the Good Housekeeping topic? We're a nice, friendly bunch. As for your dp, if he's like my dh then he has no idea what is involved.

Oops, I don't know why I mistakenly put dp there instead of dh. Sorry!

stitch - you seem to be having a bit of a hard time at the moment. Can you get the cleaner to clean twice a week?

I sometimes struggle to get everything done (no cleaner) and that's with dh and the kids helping.

If dh disagrees, point out either - with his help and the kids' help, you wouldn't need the cleaner twice a week instead of once

or - with the cleaner twice a week, you can spend more time making 'proper' dinners.

(Not that there was anything wrong with the dinner you mentioned on the other thread. Good housekeeping to use up stuff from the fridge.)

we have a cleaner to help out and she does in her two hours once a week:

hover all floors, wipe clean all window sills etc, tidy beds

and then any other ugly job like:
clean cooker, clean fridge, clean cupboards, wipe windows, take down curtains etc

it is worth it, espeically with three kids (or more) running in and out of the garden!

forget ironing, until you need a shirt or whatever - no-one thanks you and they usually end up crushed at the back of a drawer!