How to get my husband to help out more round the house?

[WarwickAlice]

What works for you ladies? My DH is wonderful, but utterly bone idle. I've tried everything I can think of to get him to do more, but I still do the lion's share of the housework.

If I ask him to do something he will eventually do it, but after whingeing, whining and making stupid jokes that just continue like a broken record until the job is done. It wears me down, but he really doesn't get it.

Any ideas?

No offence taken. I was single for 10 years or so before remarrying so had plenty of time to practise homemaking. My wife works much longer hours than I do, and in a far more challenging job. No way wouldn't I expect her to do even half the housework. She does a lot organising the kids' social and school life which I am happy to avoid.

(I would)

My DH was like this.
I showed him a cartoon about it, and how disrespectful it was. I said a,eating similar to above, that I found it had to be attracted him, I felt degraded and taken for granted. I asked if he wanted a mother or a wife.
He stepped up, slightly, but went back to being shut quite quickly.
Some had the same same chat, and a bit more pushing by me. And again, change, but not sustained.
Next time, full on screaming by me, I packed him a bag and told him to fuck off back to his mother or learn how to t be a husband.

This issue, amongst others, was the reason I divorced my exh. Like yours he was bone idle and I eventually hated him because of how taken for granted I was. He was never going to change.

Good luck.

Wow - did the full on screaming work?

It's definitely not helping. If he was single he would have to do it. He's not, there's two of you so he does half. Simple