Should I tidy house for MIL

[motherintraining]

Sons birthday so MIL coming. I'm shattered got in at 9pm last night from work/errands to drunkDH. Get up this morning and literally he leaves everything clothes on floor, dishwasher plates from bfast. Just back from picking up cake and house a complete tip. MIL is passive aggressive snob. But I work 70 hrs a week and am exhausted so do I give up and leave it to him? I always get nervous when she comes to stay. Ugh

I say leave it but I have no shame and don't care what other people think of me and my house... a quality that drives my own DM potty 😊

Her darling son created the mess. Clearly wasn't brought up properly.

Ask him to explain the house to his mother.

Just to add any passive aggressive comments would be met with 'yes I know, it must be lovely for you having so much free time' or similar x

I'd tell her this is how her son leaves the house after coming home drunk - if it upsets her she should have a word with him, you are too busy to clean up after adults

Sort any of your bits and leave yoyr dh's. If mil says anything (or maybe pre-empt it by saying up front) just apologise for the mess and say that you were really upset last night to get home late and exhausted from work expecting to see that her son would have tied the house to her standards in expectation of her visit only to discover that not only had he not tidied but he got drunk and made more mess instead and that she has your permission to bawl him out and what are her tips for getting him to do what he promised to do because you're sure that she never let him get away with such rotten behaviour...

(I'm assuming that he was in a position to tidy up and hadn't also worked a 70 hour week and got in 5 minutes before you).

And then if mil tries any PA nonsense throw it all back at her and say that personally you blame dh's upbringing, he knew she was coming, knew that he needed to tidy but instead decided to put himself first and upset you and mil by making the place worse...

Yes he hasn't just worked a 70hr week and had been home for 3hrs. I'm exhausted by the whole thought of it. Deep breathe - game face!

I'd book into a hotel and leave them to it!!