How do you allocate jobs when you both work?

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I am struggling at the moment because my DH doesn;t see the household type stuff that I do.

He is very good in that he will put on a wash, wash up, etc, but he will not accept the other stuff that takes a lot of time, e.g. homework, spellings, forms from school, activities, organising things for the children (we have 3 all under 9). Thatsnot to mention other things I do like tidying bedrooms, clearing the garden, painting rooms, emptying the garage.

He thinks because he does washing and day to day stuff he is a domestic god.

But I'm getting more and more tired and more and more resentful. How can I make him realise?

It is hard If i don't ask DH to do stuff - I have to do it all.
If I ask him to do stuff - I am a nag.
I wish I knew the answer.
I am going back full time soon, just so i can afford a cleaner and an ironing lady.

I absolutely refuse to nag so each month I type up a list of the jobs that I need DH to do and stick it on our noticeboard. If he does all the house jobs, he gets a Grade A blow job, and if he doesn't, he gets feck all. Seems to do the trick

employ a cleaner

I am looking for full time work so I may be heading for a situation like this.

Dh just doen't see what needs to be done so I think I might try allocating him specific areas of responsibilities, he always moans his socks are always last to get washed so I might put him in charge of laundry, he is a dab hand at ironing . I think that might work better than me just expecting him to do stuff then getting angry when he doesn't. So I will give him certain areas of the house to keep tidy too. We will see .