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Help - I have become the Family History Archivist and I am drowning...

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SuperMumNot · 27/03/2016 16:43

To cut a long story short, when my Dad died a couple of years ago I ended up emptying his house and ended up bringing box loads of photos/documents/ memorabilia from both his and my late mother's families back to our house.

Basically, he was 'the end of the line', as was my mum, and so as each relative died, a box load of their 'important documents' ended up with my Dad (who was also quite a hoarder in his own right Sad ).

I only have a brother left in our family. He is very sentimental about stuff and keeps telling me that I should keep things for the 'family archives' ! However he only has a small house and is 'unable' to take anything Hmm.
Problem is that the 'family archives' are currently about a dozen large cardboard boxes in my spare room at home which I desperately want to tidy up!

I've had another go at it this weekend, and it feels like such a huge responsibility to have to decide what to do with everything Sad

For example, here are the sorts of things I have been trying to decide what to do with:

  • birth and death certificates
  • certificates from qualifications e.g. degrees
  • old photo albums from 1900 onwards
  • bits of war uniforms- badges, medals
  • bits of jewellery - wedding rings/ watches
  • manuscripts which my dad wrote ( he was an aspiring writer - I keep thinking I should read it before I chuck it, or try to publish it for him?)
  • largish framed family pictures
  • medical records
  • sympathy cards after death (e.g. my Mum)
  • items which my Dad kept for their 'value' e.g. wartime Dinky models/ china tea sets etc (I should eBay these, I know, but it is so damn time-consuming)

I really seem to be making little headway, and I simply don't feel able to dump it all Sad.
Help - any ideas or experience?

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Sgtmajormummy · 30/03/2016 08:06

As the non-archivist of the family I took the following from when my DM died last month:

A framed wedding photograph of DP
A necklace I used to borrow
A shoeboxful (threw another one away) of stuff she had had thoughtfully kept for me with my name on
A 2016 teatowel calendar (my last present to her)
Her handwritten cookery book Smile

I was given the choice of taking anything or getting it shipped but DSis rightly said she couldn't store stuff. The house clearance people had already been booked. It would have been nice to take her OED and a couple of pieces of china but only having hand luggage whittled it down wonderfully!

I think your brother might make a similar choice if put to it...

About framed photographs. If they're of living people they are probably copies made for doting grandparents etc. and you'd be safe to chuck them.
I'd also make a note/digital photo of the sympathy cards and eliminate those, too.

Sgtmajormummy · 30/03/2016 08:20

The medical records I'd get rid of without a second thought. Just a quick note attached to the birth certificate: "Suffered from X, died of Y" would be enough IMO.

LifeOfBriony · 30/03/2016 08:40

I have bought acid-free plastic pockets from My History www.my-history.co.uk/ . They also sell acid-free storage boxes and archive-quality paper and pens. Their orders arrive quickly too.

JellyBabiesSaveLives · 30/03/2016 09:03

Tell your brother he is going to take a week off work to come and stay with you and sort through this stuff. Half of what you both decide to keep will be going back to his house - if he hasnt got space then you'll have to decide to keep less.

If he chooses not to do this then parcelforce half the boxes to him. It is absolutely not fair to make this all yiur responsibility.

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