Hi Bellatrix,
I did flylady a few years ago and decided I hated it after a while. I found it really patronising and hated the way she suggested that everyone else would get on board if only you did everything first and set the example. Def not true in my house! I also hated the anti-feminist message of the whole thing. Maybe it's changed since then though.
I'm a single mum (widowed) with three young children, so I have to keep on top of the house as it goes to pot very quickly otherwise. I've come up with a plan that is working so far...
First, make a list of all the regular cleaning jobs that need to be done, e.g. Hoovering, cleaning bathroom...
If you have more than ten jobs in your list, group them so you end up with ten, so for example hoovering and washing floors might go together. If you have less than ten in your list split them (e.g. Hoovering could be split into upstairs and downstairs.)
Then allocate these tasks to a two week rolling timetable, Monday-Friday.
The advantage of this is that you only need to get one or two bits of equipment out per day. I think with flylady she works in zones, but that means most equipment has to be used every day. What my 'system' means is that no single area looks totally sparkling at any one time, but equally you can keep on top of the whole house. Also it seems quick and manageable - if all you have to do on a Monday, for example, is dust through, it feels doable.
This assumes that you have at least 10-15 minutes every day to give up to cleaning. It's not a method that will work for everyone, but it works for me at the moment.
With the hoarding, I find I'm much better at getting rid of stuff if it's going to charity. I do remember that flylady thing of three bags - one for charity, one for rubbish, one for ?? What was the third? I think a variation of that could be useful.
Hope that helps!