Question about toilets and families and stuff. Yes I should know this stuff.

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This is an incredibly stupid question, I think.

What do most people do about getting their children and husbands to clean up after they've done a poo?

My mum, never asked us to do anything, she came along and slaved around and cleared everyone's crap up.
DH mum ditto.

So we have no reference point!

Do you get the kids to use the bog brush? That makes me feel uncomfortable, the little one is just 6 and I can just see her dripping it around and stuff, and my mantra has been "just don't touch it" (the bog brush) up to now, for fear of causing more harm than good!

There is also the "use some bog roll and give it a wipe above the water level, under will sort itself out, then wash your hands" method but again this feels a bit, I don't feel like it's right somehow to ask them to do that! (Upbringing I guess)

So, what do other people do, what is "normal"? Are there other methods? I know some people don't even have toilet brushes (you learn all sorts on MN!) so what then do they say to the children?

Bottom line (ha!) is that there are 4 of us here and there is no way I'm cleaning up everyone elses crap for the rest of my life, but unfortunately, I haven't got any background as to what normal people do to avoid this! It's not something you talk about with your friends....

Thanks!

We use the toilet roll method

Loo brush here. Why would they wave it around? I wouldn't ask them to stick their hands down the pan without gloves on. Yuck.

Interesting thank you both!

50/50 so far and no exciting new methods to try

It would be great if we could keep the yuck at other people's methods to a minimum please, I don't want to start a war!

mine have to clean up seat and rim themselves if they make a mess but if there is mess in the bowl I deal with it. mine are 10 and 6.

My 5 year old uses the brush. Has done for some time. I'm very proud of him!

Do you both get good results with your chosen methods?

How long did you need to keep reminding them before they did it without being told?

Do you do anything special to keep your bog brushes clean? Ours are not awful but not brand new, obviously, and they always seem to be sitting in a small amount of bleachy/dank water (obviously run out of it from last use into the holder) and I am concerned about drip potential.

Surly do they use the bog roll method?

bonzo well done your DS!

Warm water from the tap (we keep a little jug on the shelf) rinsed round the loo bowl straight after the event solves the problem ime.

(Don't have loo brush.)

yes they use toilet roll to wipe up. sometimes they aren't great at it. sometimes I can be bothered to bring them back and make them do it properly and sometimes I just sigh and do it myself.

Wow betty thank you for being the first to bring something new to the table! That sounds like a very sanitary approach.

Surly thanks for the further info!

I can see myself involving the family in a set of experiments to see what is best

Keep them coming!

For kids who aren't very good at hand eye coordination, I do the necessary, but for older kids and adults, they clean up after themselves.

Keep a jug near the loo to fill and give an extra swoosh when flushing, usually works, and saves the trees!

I am liking this jug of water approach.

Far less likelihood of getting crap on themselves, or dripping rancid bog brush water on the floor...

Maybe that combined with a bit of bog roll for stubborn ones...

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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We use these so there is never a dirty toilet brush to wave about but everyone can clean behind them. Love this invention!

I expect mine to clean the seat, and my 12 year old is at the stage when I would expect him to start to use the loo brush.
Hate the idea of hands down the loo with loo roll cleaning off pooh.

I would want my younger ones doing anything down the bowl.

My battle is clean seat and basin (sigh)

Ah sink

Yes getting them to clean their toothpaste spit up would be easy and hygienic, I do that a bit.

I think that if you didn't get any of this drilled into you as a kid, it's just not automatic to do it to your own kids at all, and like with the toilet thing I literally didn't know what to even tell them!

We are trying though.

goldglitter thanks for link

Ds age 8 uses loo roll to wipe in the bowl.

Dd 6 usually just tells me and I deal with it but I might start the loo roll method with her too. my youngest so in my mind she is essentially still a toddler.

I wouldn't trust either of them to use a loo brush without getting drips everywhere.

loo brush.
and marching offenders (including dc's friends) back to the toilet to clean.

they are learning (I think)

It's interesting isn't it, I can't remover ever having to clean the (dark brown) loo as a child - or quite a long time after as having not been brought up to do so ...
At some point I must have started cleaning poo marks off, but tbh haven't ever really had this problem anyway - poo goes in to loo and flushes away.
I do generally clean the Loos (white - shows all marks) now, and bing in a hard water area they need regular cleaning to prevent limescale buildup.

Anyway, kids. Mine are 13 and 9. For the last couple of years maybe I've told them to clear up after themselves and will make the go back and do so if I go in and it's a mess. Toilet brush.

I really really want a bum gun, aka toilet shower. They're used in some countries for cleaning oneself, but I don't want it for that, I want it to clean the loo. Point, aim, gone. this thing

I'd get one if I could be sure it wouldn't be used as a weapon.

wow @ bum gun! We need an industrial one I think :D

I am taking all of this helpful talk on-board and will gather the family later to do some rousing "let's tackle this as a family, let's make a plan and then stick to it YAY" type talk (and see how far that gets me HA!)

Sometimes I think it is the design of the WC that is to blame rather than the depositor iyswim.
I have 2 loos.
1 is very old but big and cavernous and never gets afflicted with skids - though, to be fair, you could lose a small child down it which may (or may not!) be a negative.
The other is a modern, much smaller one and it does get the skid problem periodically.
The problem is, unless the anus is positioned exactly and precisely over the base of the bowl, the deposit cannot fail but to hit the wall(s) of the bowl on the way down.
We get some success at avoiding this by placing a couple of sheets (and only a couple) against the most frequent skidding point.
Have no idea if this is of any use to you Op but it works fairly well for us.
Please don't come back and tell me your DC have blocked the loo with reams of loo roll.

I also want to install bum guns in our house - they can be used for both arse and loo IME

Sorry OP - no original ideas but lurking. I think it depends on the flush as well. DH and I have these Eco flush things in the UK and they are a bit limp but in my old house (ancient plumbing) it used to be torrential and dislodge anything lurking around!

Winged - interesting

I do think that the children make a terrible mess as they are indeed not hitting the water but the slopey bit beforehand. As they are small and so their bums are in the "wrong" place.

Other people DH it's just old fashioned pebble dashing. He has been told to clean up, whether by bog roll or loo roll, but just clean up! Just remembered, his DF came to look after the kids and he obviously thought he had to be careful (hahahahaha!) and had bought some disinfectant wipes and all looked good until I came to use the bog brush and MY GOD I won't go into it, but it was placed in multiple carrier bags and straight in the bin. So that's another issue!

We have a combo of new eco bogs with fairly limp flush + massive slope and walls and little in the way of large drop zone. This is obviously adding to our angst.

Yy to eco flushes, or no no.
I wonder if anyone has tried to work out the environmental impact of water saved vs the amount of bleach and cleaning sticks etc used?

DH cleans up after himself. I wouldn't expect nor want my 7 and 3 year olds to clean the toilet.