I did kondo before christmas- bloody brilliant. 8 trips to the charity shop and 9 trips to the tip.
I've since been through the house again, with a little more ruthlessness. 2 more trips to the charity shop and one more tip run.
Don't get me wrong, the house is much better. I can realistically tidy and clean from top to bottom now in less than a day. (Would have took a week before)
But it's still untidy most days. Grrr.
I have been looking at fly lady, but it seems more for people who have clutter and need to get to grips with starting a routine to get on top of it.
I can get on top of it, I just can't seem to stay on top of it!
I have a daft mentality that I need some help/tips to shake.
I'm terrible at putting away. I'm forever putting down; to do later. That in itself is probably fixable, but I have this efficiency mentality (although I am better than I was).
Dp is always tidying to make it look nicer. By that I mean, putting things neat in piles or pushing it in corners etc. But to me that would just mean I would be doing work twice. I wouldn't walk into a room and think I'll just make it look nicer. I would think, for example, living room -right, all the toys need putting back where they belong, the various clothes need picking up, hoover needs going on.
Another example, the kitchen. He will pile the dishes neat and wipe up crumbs with a wet wipe. I wouldn't do anything until I'm ready to load the dishwasher, wash what is left over, put away all the various packets, tins, juice bottles, etc take out the re-cycling, the bin and wipe the tops down with disinfectant, sweep the floor.
Ie, I want it done properly, but as he points out, this makes me do it less because I'm overwhelmed with what needs doing. And he is right.
This is not a dig or complaint at dp. I'm just using what he does as an example to explain my way of thinking.
Another example would be that I only wash up if there is a big pile of dishes, as doing it when there are a few things just makes me think I'm doing 3 times instead of once. 
I'm not sure I've explained very well 
but I think I need some sort of system that makes you stay on top of things and gets me thinking differently, without assuming you haven't done things for months/years.
I should point out that there are 6 of us in this house, including 4 children, so I can literally turn round and the room I just left is already a tip, but my biggest job is without doubt the washing/drying/ironing and putting clothes away.
Any tips welcome. 