Right, I have now had a gut full, dts are a danger to society so from this moment on dts and myself are hermits!!!!!!!

[slaughterfalls]

I have had enough of them being aggressive towards other children, another bad morning at mother and toddler today, they continually sgo round pushing and hitting the other kids, and all the other mothers wispering and pointing, they started this a few weeks ago and I dont know why, and I have tried everything to stop it, I am not going back again!!

And I have no bloody idea why I put this in 'good housekeeping'

What a nightmare for you. How old are they? My dts are a force to be reckoned with, when they play up its doubly embaressing isn't it?
Sometimes parents of singleton children just don't understand. They say, "oh I don't know how you do it", but then when the proverbial hits the fan, their empathy can go right out of the window.
My sympathies, but please don't let it put you off going, its bound to be a phase. Maybe you will work out what set it off?

pmsl at choosing good housekeeping!

Poor you, you sound like you have had a horrible morning. How old are the DTs? My DS went through a terrible phase but he has, thankfully, moved on from it.

It must be v difficult having it in stereo though - esp as all the other mothers at M&T must surely be perfect

nor me, I don't normally look in good housekeeping, as it doesn't hold much relevance for my life lol
My eye caught the magic word "twins"

How old are they?

Hopefully this is just a phase - most kids do it and I guess that having 2 at the same time doing it makes it seem even worse than it is.

The key thing is how you deal with it imo.

They will be 3 in December.

Mine will be two on Sunday. I can't wait for the terrible twos, and potty training. Oh my god,

They will push any child that comes near them, they dont seem to need a reason, it actally started the week they stopped being clingy, before they would both be huddled up to me the whole time we were at M&T, but as soon as they gained thier confindence this behaviour starts, I think perhaps they just need some practice at interacting, so I soppose I have to go back for thier sake.

poor slaughterfalls

definitely go back; it's just a phase, honest! all the other kids will go through it too at some point.

It does take a bit of time to adapt to these groups doesn't it. I am sure that the other parents are more understanding than you think
I guess Twins learn that they can be more powerful working as a team

Yes they do work as a team, as soon as I am busy with one, the other one will go and hit someone, the one mother yelled at me across the room today.........

OI I'M NOT BEING FUNNY BUT SHE HAS JUST WHACKED MY DAUGHTER!!!!!!!!!

I saw it happen and was about to deal with it, and it was'nt a whack, she just pushed her a little.

this is what happened at M&T 2 weeks ago

I can't help but chuckle at your posts slaughterfalls, not in a nasty way, but in a reminiscing way because your DTs sound sooo like mine were, trashing your house and upsetting everyone at toddler groups . I remember that it was far from funny at the time though so you have my big big sympathies.

At that age my DTs used to pick on the little ones that had just learnt to walk, who were a little bit wobbly still. They'd go over and smile and stroke their hair and lull them into a false sense of security then push them over . I remember crying to DH saying that there was something wrong with them, they were evil .

Keep repeating "It's just a phase, it's just a phase".

sandyballs

Thats ok, I'm hoping its not long before I can look back and laugh about it (well not the part about giving kids black eyes)

Slaughterfalls -definately go back. If you stay at home you'll be climbing the walls and the girls won't get chance to practice their interaction skills with others.

You are dealing with the DTs behaviour when things happen, its not as if you're letting them run riot there so the other Mums can Stuff IT!

I expect you know about it already but there is a group for twins and multiples in our area -it only runs once a month I think, but have you tried that? Might feel a little less daunting as the parents there will know, all too well, what its like!

oh babe. Like Overrun it was DTs that caught my eye and made me open Good Housekeeping! I was wetting myself at the title.

So... why haven't you put this on D'y ever wonder.......?

Mine will be 3 in February. They go to playgroup where a small girl has taken to pouring water all over them. I think she's very brave because my two together are enough to make adults cry, never mind small children.

It is a phase. The difficulty is that there are two of them. With one you can distract, threaten, play etc etc until the phase passes. With two........ you are constantly on the move! People don't really see just how difficult it can be with twins, which is probably why so many twin mums just lock the front door until school.

I feel your pain because whenever I take my two anywhere I feel I don't have enough eyes, hands, patience or energy to prevent the OI I'M NOT BEING FUNNY.... type comments. The temptation to shout back OI I'M NOT BEING FUNNY BUT RATHER THAN COMPLAIN COME AND GIVE ME A HAND OR A BLOODY GREAT VODKA! is great!

And so back to the twin mantra..... this too will pass. This too will pass..... come on WF chant away..... This too will pass

I am a twin and my mum has a rather strained far away look on her face when I ask what we were like at 2. All she will say is that things got better at 3.

Thanks for al the reassurances

BettyBatShapedSpaghetti
I used to go to the twin group, but it became quite tricky, as they meet in different places each month, and I dont drive, so alot of the time it just seemed more hassle than it was worth.

Marslady, you make me pmsl