I am 34, I am single for the first time in my adult life, I have no idea how to keep a house clean - HELP

[shakinstevenslovechild]

Dh and I have recently made the decision to split.

I have been with him since I was 19/20.

He is moving out soon, and I am really worried.

In our relationship I have worked, dealt with the cooking, washing and our dc, he has worked and dealt with the majority of the housework.

I am ashamed to say that I don't even know where to start with keeping on top of the housework because he has always done most of it.

Please, please share your hints and tips with me.

I have a 3 bedroomed house, 4 dc, and work from home mostly.

I am that I have got this far in life and relied on him so much, so please be gentle

What 'lasts longer' btw? :)

Haha. I meant that the effect of reducing the number of bacterias on your skin will mean your skin is cleaner for longer. ;)

It does dry the skin only the first time, but after that it doesn't. It is not strong dilution as well. Just a lighter one. I am a bit of a skin freak these days, because I realised what makes it glow that bit more. I am trying to stay away from spa and use good dead sea bath salts with dettol, every once a while. Sorry, I didn't mean to use dettol, AND bleach AND the tooth pastes to clean with.

Just to say that, you guys are hilarious. I just joined mumsnet. I miss girly chats, I do I do. :)

"=It lasts longer." Did I really write that ??

Okay Maisie

I'll bet your bath tub stays quite clean too!

Feminine !

Hehehehe....

Wow you certainly don't need to change bedding every day! Once a week at the weekend

My mum used to bath me in Dettol! I still love the smell of it I have been known to sniff it as I walk round the supermarket ....

You change all your sheets every day ?
Well that's 1.5 hrs or more every day that can be spent whizzing around the house.
Unless you live somewhere pretty tropical then once a week should be fine.

I have started doing bedding twice a week and we haven't caught anything as yet, I have no idea why I did it every day, it seemed like a good idea at the time.

I think I'll stick to radox baths and leave the dettol for.... actually I don't know, I have a bottle and have never used it for anything.

He has moved out now, a couple of weeks ago actually, and my house isn't perfect, but it's not bad either. I do a big clean on a monday and have a bit of a routine going for the rest of the week now. The kids get pocket money for chipping in with the chores, and I officially love my dishwasher, I really wouldn't have coped through this difficult time without its support

Thank you for all the tips, and for recommending flylady I am not the scruff I once was, I'm still no Anthea Turner though