I was wondering if people could tell me how you share chores fairly with your partner and if you have any tips?
My husband and I have been arguing about chores quite a lot lately. We both work full time and don't have children. We do want children at some point and I know we will have less free time then, so I feel like we should get into good habits now so it's not a complete disaster when we have kids!
My husband works from home 4 days a week, and the other day he has a long commute (couple of hours each way). I recently started a new job which is quite demanding and stressful at times. I also cycle to work. Often when I get home I don't feel like doing much. My husband is good at cooking and likes doing it, so usually he cooks and I do the clearing up (clear table, load dishwasher, tidy kitchen, wash up bits that don't go in the dishwasher). We usually do a food shop together at the weekend, or one of us does it if the other is away etc. I often take care of the washing but he does it sometimes. And vice versa for emptying the bins. Other than that we're not very organised, it's only if we have people coming over or one of us takes the initiative that we do some tidying or hoovering, clean the bathroom or kitchen, etc. We sometimes let it get pretty bad before we get sick of it and have a blitz. Because he works from home, it bothers him more, and he's been getting annoyed at me because he says it's always him taking the initiative with the housework. The problem is that when he gets annoyed at me, it doesn't make me want to help - it's the opposite, I just feel like doing nothing. So how do we fix it? Do we need to do a timetable and share out the chores?