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The Fledglings' nests will be clean in 2013!

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superfluouscurves · 31/12/2012 21:44

(With many thanks to Jdub for title inspiration!!)

If your house is a mess and you are strugging with C.H.A.O.S. (can't have anyone over syndrome) and S.T.U.F.F. (something that undermines family fun) then this is the thread where we (loosely) follow the step-by-step Flylady housekeeping system (in our own, unique, relaxed style) with lots of chat, support and wine along the way.

This little-and-often system is designed so that you can follow a series of steps and routines each day (which gradually become second nature) in weekly designated zones of the house; defining and minimising housework - which in theory should leave you with more time to do other, more interesting things instead!

At the same time it is intended to reduce that panicky "rabbit in headlights" feeling when you are overwhelmed and everything needs doing all at once. No problem if you miss a day or two; just jump right back in and it will all come around next month again anyway!

We advise not signing up to receive the Flylady e-mails as you will be inundated (although some Fledglings find the compilation e-mails helpful)! All the information you need will be linked here on a daily basis.

From the first of the month, we will be following Flylady's steps and routines using a three-pronged approach (dependent on the stage everyone is at):

  • start or repeat baby steps
  • repeat baby steps + do 15 mins a day decluttering in the current zone
  • reinforce babysteps and do daily missions if you have finished decluttering.

[And if you are really enthusiastic and have finished decluttering - you can go on to detailed deep cleaning in each zone.]

More info here on getting started and Flying lessons. Here's the launch pad for more experienced fledglings. Don't be put off by the barf-tastic language of the site - the underlying system is sound (and you may discover a few of our subversions of the vocabulary along the way).

Huge thanks to Lauren for being our incredibly reliable and organised shining star in the East and leading us throughout the very busy month of December!!

Happy New Year Fledglings!!

All welcome!!

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 05/01/2013 14:16

Procrastinating here.

Good luck today Trazzle

Haven't read all the thread, just having a rabbit in the headlights moment with all the Christmas presents that haven't been found homes yet (we were away Boxing Day until Thursday). We opted for lots of small stuff (books, games, DVDs etc) this year instead of big presents but it has all got find somewhere to live. DS started doing some unprompted decluttering this morning (bless him!) but DD just wanted to keep everything.

DH has just taken the Christmas tree to the tip Sad and I have boxed up the decorations to go back to the loft also Sad, the house looks very dull (as well as untidy). DCs are colouring and listening to one of the new CDs, I really ought to go and get on with stuff .

bakerofcakes · 05/01/2013 14:35

Hope today has gone well for your little boy trazzle
Just been to visit DD and her partner, they are both glued to CITV too lauren, kids were clamouring to watch Disney channel, but no chance Grin
Feeling a lot better today, just very tired, but DD partner is now ill, we were supposed to be going to see the Hobbit tonight, but he doesn't think he will be able to go so we will have to put that off until next week.

Ta Da
Usual morning routines (make bed, swish and swipe, tidy kitchen, washing on, wash any pots etc)
Been shopping
Visited DD and partner

To Do

Walk dog
Get boxes out of loft to pack away christmas tree/decorations
Put stuff back in loft together with new camping table I have just bought
Thursday and Friday's missions
Think about doing some ironing
Cook tea
Wash up again and tidy kitchen
Watch DVD/TV with DP
Have long soak in bath, then nightime routines (quick tidy up, get clothes out for tomorrow etc)

Don't forget to tell us about your new car silvery

BitchyDragons · 05/01/2013 15:06

Morning.
Just about awake. Just
Meds completely wiped me out last night. knew they would and the sleep was much needed. Pain control is looking like it is going to happen which is good. However, ability to function is sorely lacking atm.

Suppose to be getting so much done today too. Hmm

Going to start with a small to do list and an even smaller ta da list.
To do:
Get up and breakfast
Room rescue my room
unload, reload and run dishwasher

Ta da
cancel this afternoon's plans - lovely friend was very understanding
sort out tonight's plans -although i might have to cancel if functioning doesn't improve :(
Consider what needs to be done before tomo evening - need to put this into an ordered plan of action though as it is just random thoughts atm

lorisparkle · 05/01/2013 15:29

hope you are feeling better bitchy.

I'm planning on updating my morning routine and would live to see other people's if willing to share Grin

BitchyDragons · 05/01/2013 15:56

Morning routine:
open eyes
throw clothes and food at child
get showered and up
throw packed lunch together
take child to school
come home, drink coffee

In that precise order. I am NOT a morning person so morning routine contains as little as physically possible

WhatKatyDidToday · 05/01/2013 16:29

trazzles hope today goes ok
Engelsemama that?s a v long list ? good luck! Can?t you just pick a few things to do?!
LillethTheCat well done for even thinking about a run! I need to get back on it next week. Hope you manage to squeeze one in at some other point?I?m sure ranting is cathartic, rant away!
MrsPennyapple - thanks for tip re oven cleaning ? my oven is vile, but doing that would help a little!
Orchidskeepdying arf at setting yourself missions!
laurenanium I have recorded all the CITV programmes and cannot wait to watch them later with or without the kids
GossipWitch jealous of your lie in! My DC3 doesn?t ?do? sleeping and I go back to work soon, so would kill for a lie in right now!

Have to go now, will come back and finish looking at thread and dump very short list later!

MakeNoResolutions · 05/01/2013 16:37

Hi all,

A productive day here as I'm back at work tomorrow. It'll be interesting to see if I can stay on top of things when the term is in full swing again. This week is a fairly easy one as we get everyone back into the swings of things.

Done
Washing x 3
Line dry washing
All ironing (empty basket for the first time in three weeks!)
Tree down and Christmas put away for another year
Two lots of uniform repaired
Hoover throughout
Sink shined
Swish and swipe of bathrooms
Clean sheets
Nails done (my bit of me time)

To do
Read my book :)

GossipWitch · 05/01/2013 16:45

hello
trazzles hope ds's day goes well and for you too
bitchy hope you have decided to have a chilled out day certainly sounds like you need it.

Well my day started with full intentions of house cleaning and has ended in stripping paint off walls in the bathroom, but I did clean the paint up after so that counts doesn't it ?

Off to cook tea now, I will catch up with you all later!

Engelsemama · 05/01/2013 16:59

Have had a peaceful day without DH Katy so managed to do quite a lot.

List update

Put away last lot of washing from yesterday
Do 2 lots of washing
Fit car seat and register
Post letters and thank you cards
Move ols toys and Christmas decorations upstairs to loft
Change beds
Do some marking when DS is asleep put off till tomorrow
Skype DM - not home!
If I?m feeling brave take bike to bike shop to be repaired not brave enough today
Investigate framing photo of DS
Hoover upstairs should go and do now
Weigh myself not as bad as expected given what I've scoffed over the ast 2 weeks
Shred
Digital declutter and back up files not time but the night is young
My new year?s resolution is get outside more?could do some gardening/go for a walk/just take DS out in the garden for half an hour fail!
order museum year card Label DS clothes
Call GPs
activate gift card

BlueEyeshadow · 05/01/2013 17:15

Hope today has gone well Trazzle.

I can't kerep up with the thread at the moment but we're back home tomorrow so will dive back in then! Will join WhoKnows in wondering where on earth to put all the stuff!

It's my mum's birthday today so we've been out for a lovely pub lunch and spent most of the afternoon playing Uno. DS1 is a tad obsessed, but fortunately the set is staying here!!

Big waves, Brew, Biscuit and Wine all round.

SilveryMoon · 05/01/2013 17:31

Hi.
Gossip Of course it counts! Good luck with the decorating. I need to do it too, but it'll wait.
MakeNoResolutions I have the same issue, during holidays is fine, but once beack at work, I struggle a bit. Really going to try to stick with it though, although I didn't do any detail cleaning yesterday Blush
lori My morning routine: Get up and make beds, load washing machine, get ds's breakfast, take dry washing off radiators and replace, shower and dress, swish and swipe, 2 min hotspot, 5 min room rescue, feed cats.
Whilst I'm doing that, the boys (3 and 5) are eating breakfast and getting themselves dressed. Then it's out the house at 7:15 exactly.
Bitchy Hope you're feeling a bit better.

ta da
Morning routine
Pub for brunch
Menu planned for next week
Food shopping
Cooked dinner (ds's)
Fed cats and fish
Cleaned litter trays
Dusted and polished
Cleaned glass shelves and cabinets
Changed bed sheets x3
Hoovered
Mopped
Took car for a spin
Cleaned car

to do
Cook dinner (me and dp - pizza)
Clean down kitchen
Load of washing
Sort dry washing
Non-iron stuff away
Lay out clothes for tomorrow
Boy in bath
Boys in bed
Stray items away
Shine sink
Wine
bed

So today I drove to the pub and then to Tesco and home. Was ok. I nearly took out some bins at the petrol station, but dp helped me reverse and steer round them Blush
I am quite nervous having the ds's in the car, but I figured that as I only just failed, and it was a really silly mistake that happened because I'd allowed myself to get flustered, that my level and quality of driving is ok, and even if I had passed, I'd still not be driving alone without someone with me, it's just a confidence thing and my instructor is putting me in for test again soon.
I've decided not to drive for longer than 20mins at a time for now, its just enough for me to stay focused enough, but no doubt will improve as I do it more.
The boys were really good and stayed very quiet, but no doubt they'll get bored of that soon!
They especially enjoyed getting the dust buster and rags out to clean the inside (was a bit grim). Ds1 especially enjoyed cleaning the car and is telling me so, so guess what his job on a friday is? Wink
So I had 2 20 min sessions in the car today. Dp said I can drive to and from work on monday (eeekkkk).
My friend went home today, so have got my flat back and can walk around in my pj's again!

elliepac · 05/01/2013 17:59

Evening all. Spent all yesterday moping about with a headache so didn't really get much done. It took a long walk this morning to clear it as we took dc's out to blow out some cobwebs. A bit of fresh air and exercise did us all the world of good apart from DS who sprained his ankle trying to do tricks on his new stunt scooter!

Ta da today:-
Washing up
Washing
Drying
General maintenance tidy x lots
Outing to local stately home and gardens
Afternoon watching CITV and reliving my childhood/Charlotte's Web
Dinner cooked
Dinner tidied away.

To do:-
Marking of Year 11 Controlled Assessment ( clearly i have had 2 weeks to do it and left it till the last minute)

trazzle hope today went ok.

Did anybody else watch Fraggle rock and feel 6 again. Made my daySmile.

elliepac · 05/01/2013 18:01

Meant to say silvery I too struggle big time when working. I must keep to my routines or it all goes pear shaped. My house has been really quite tidy these holidays as I have been a good fledgling but back to work on monday so we shall see.

madwomanintheattic · 05/01/2013 18:02

To do:

Bank
Sort clothing

Deliberately small list as I want to actually achieve it! It's 11am, and I'm on my own until at least 4pm.

Ta da:

Get me, I was out of bed, dressed, and at the copy shop when it opened, as I needed to send 15 ski instructor contracts and tax forms up to the ski hill as our temp staff start today. Grin

I am dead chuffed with myself on a Saturday, I tell you. Normally I'd still be in my pj's a wandering!

Righty, bank. Grin

madwomanintheattic · 05/01/2013 18:23

Oh god. Just thought I'd change the laundry over before I left for the bank, and I've just found an entire load of my fine wool do not tumble dry work clothes in the tumble dryer, having been superheated.

Feck. I think the trousers are okay, but I won't know until I iron and try them on, but my tops and favourite skinny cardigans look like they might fit dd2. I did not need that expense in January, and I have few enough work clothes as it is.

So, now I'm ashamed that mil has done my blardy housework, and cross because she's toasted my clothes (but mostly cross with myself because I should have hidden the damn things so she couldn't get to them and washed them myself) Feck feck feck.

madwomanintheattic · 05/01/2013 18:25

Wy did I leave them in the laundry basket? Argh.

BlueEyeshadow · 05/01/2013 18:33

Oh no, madwoman!

SilveryMoon · 05/01/2013 18:59

ellie I know what you mean. During the summer holidays, my place was spotless, I did everything and was determined to keep it that way. A few bad days at work put an end to that though.
madwoman Oh no!!! That sucks. But, well done for this morning, nice positive for the day

to do
Cook dinner (me and dp - pizza) doing
Clean down kitchen done
Load of washing done
Sort dry washing done
Non-iron stuff away done
Lay out clothes for tomorrow done
Boy in bath done
Boys in bed done
Stray items away done
Shine sink
Wine doing
bed

Ahhhhhh, that feels GOOD

LillethTheCat · 05/01/2013 19:37

Just a quick one tonight, Im meant to be watching TV with DH.

tada

  • Washing Machine on
  • Drying
  • Take Clothes from yesterdays wash upstairs
  • Delegate Wash up to DH
  • Wash up
  • Start 1000 piece puzzle with DD1
  • take todays laundry upstairs

Not washed up after tea or shined sink Blush will have to go to the naughty corner for tonight I think. Been on the phone to my dad then my mum. To see how they are doing (dad is in hospital after having an operation).

tomorrow's list

  • wash up 3X
  • Shine sink
  • finish coursework
  • change bedding (only doing ours as DCs will get done Monday)
  • Go for a run
  • Fill out petrol form (I get petrol money back for one of my courses if I send in my receipts)

Hope everyone has a good sat night.

SilveryMoon · 05/01/2013 19:41

Lilleth No one said anything about washing up. Where did you get the idea you had to wash up to shine your sink? During the next advert break, pop in kitchen, take plates etc out of sink, rinse the sink, dry it off and bring out the window cleaner. Will take 3 mins tops, and you'll still get to start tomorrow on a good foot.
I have a plastic box in the cupboard under my sink where washing up goes that I can't be arsed to do. That way, no one has to see it Smile

SilveryMoon · 05/01/2013 19:42

Completely missed the second sentance there. I can be so ignorant. I'm sorry. I hope your Dad is ok and recovering well.

LillethTheCat · 05/01/2013 19:49

I just feel as though its not done properly if there's still dishes to be washed.

Dad is ok, but needs some tests. Im worried about both my parents really, but unless they need my DNA there's not a lot I can do apart from being there for them. Think Im going to drive down tomorrow to see how my mum is, but not sure cos I think my mum will prefer me to stay here with my own family (its a 90min drive each way).

SilveryMoon · 05/01/2013 20:00

Lilleth My mum's like that. She always tells me to worry about my own family, like just because I had dc's she doesn't count anymore, but I understand what she means.
I hope they are both ok, keep us updated.

Re: sink shining and terms such as "not done properly", we are taking babysteps.
And for most of us, the reason we have let things slip into CHAOS is because we allowed ourselves to be controlled by things that needed to be done 'properly' and ended up getting overwhelmed by standards we had set ourselves that we could not meet all of the time.
What's the worst thing that can happen if you shine your sink without washing up? You'll have a nice clean sink (remember you soaked that in bleach for an hour not a week ago and scrubbed it clean) and a pile of washing up, that won't go anywhere, won't breed (although it seems to), but will get done tomorrow.
It's these high and unreasonable standards that have brought us here. Forget them. Recognise the negative voices in your own head (to quote some shite i read on FLYlady's babystep plan/testimonial) and close them down, they do no good.
Just go and wipe your sink with window cleaner and be done with it Wink Grin

GoingGoingGoth · 05/01/2013 20:19

Lillith' hope your Dad's ok soon

Trazzle hope every thing went ok at the hospital today.

My ta-dahs for today:

Washing away.
Dd to library & fed ducks again.
Dinner made, still sticking to meal plan, pots washed & shiny sink Smile
Somehow I managed to have no washing kicking around this afternoon, BUT
Quick hot-spot in kitchen, meant I found that I hadn't washed DD's lunch bag over Christmas Blush

superfluouscurves · 05/01/2013 20:48

Round-up Part One

Evening all. Hope you have all had a bit of family fun today!

Had a go at round-up earlier - got half way through - dh called me for dinner - pressed wrong button - and it all disappeared. Starting again now ...!!

Orchids and everyone else with ovens in need of cleaning this is brilliant! Good tips from MrsPennyapple too. And if you don't have a dishwasher, soaking shelves and other oven bits in hot water in which you have put a dishwasher tab works well too.

Cuddledup I hope you are bearing up. I'm sorry - I've forgotten which day you said the funeral was on - thinking of you x

Good job on keeping up with the baby-steps Trazzles Hope treatment went well for J today (and that they were all ready for you).

Madwoman your mil is a star - although I must admit I too would be mortified if anyone delved too closely in to my kitchen cupboards and laundry baskets atm. Like Engels said, I always have the urge to help my sisters when I stay with them. When I last stayed at dsister2's house, I cleaned out her huge baking cupboard in the kitchen and did a massive pile of ironing (highly unusual behaviour for me!) and enjoyed it too! Will think about it more carefully next time though as I would hate to have caused her distress!

But as Toffee said - it really is a genuine pleasure to be able to help someone.

Given that it is much more fun to do chores in other people's houses - maybe that is the solution to all our Flying problems!! We just have to locate the Fledgling nearest to us, and do all their chores for them and vice versa!! (Engels - it may be a bit of a commute but I'm sure at a stretch we could do it Wink Grin!!) Just kidding ... sadly ....!!

Madwoman glad your friend and her dd are doing as well as can be expected in the circs.

Top marks to Makenoresolutions you seem v. on top of things and organised atm - need to follow suit!!

Silvery how exciting about the car - definitely best way to pass test! Hope you felt better today.

You too Bakerofcakes hope you are recovering.

And you Gossip hope you feel better soon and fingers and toes crossed for test next week. And yes, paint stripping and clearing up definitely counts!!

Toffee yay to reliable men with tweed jackets!! Smile And ditto re: needing to get stuck in to kitchen cleaning next week.

Thekitchenfairy Yes it is as simple as that - just follow the baby-steps first until they become second nature (and do 15 mins decluttering in current zone per day if poss). Eating an elephant and all that!

MrsPennyApple/Thekitchenfairy like the sound of that decluttering thread ... must go and find it ...

Lorisparkle sorry - have finally caught up with this thread and see that you are indeed a newcomer. Hope the system is starting to work for you. Many of us on here feel overwhelmed so you are definitely in the right place! Small focused bursts of activity are definitely the way to go. I know it isn't easy when everything needs your attention at once - but Flying will really help with that, I promise. As Engels said, it's amazing what you can get done in 15 mins! And well done for getting the decorations down!

Doublemum arf at scene from The Hobbit. I find this useful and no, I don't have shares in Lakeland!! Hope your kitchen has recovered from pizza-making! It is dispiriting when you have to do everything all over again!

Well done Orchidskeepdying great the system is starting to work for you!

Wewereherefirst hope your Saturday was more relaxing than yesterday! (Doesn't sound like it from your v. impressive lists though!)

Engels Marmite available here too, albeit at exorbitant prices!! V. impressed by your post-holiday lists - v. organised! Hope your ds allowed you to get through a bit of your list today too. [Am also very scared about weighing myself tomorrow if it's any consolation!]

Glad you survived your shift Mercury and wise words about Flying. Keeping the basics going is definitely the key.

Castlelough it must be so frustrating for you being so tantalisingly close to finishing your build. You'll get there soon! And great that your dh has plumbing skills! Hope it wasn't too Sad saying goodbye to your dsis.

Poor you LplateFlyer you really have been through the mill. Hope you are feeling much better now. And huge sympathies over that "sinking feeling" upon returning home - I know that feeling so well! Take care of that foot x

Hope your dd2 recovers soon Lilleth Completely understand your rant! I get up first and I always feel guilty about waking the house (dh and dd have no such concerns if they get up early for any reason though!!) Sometimes, trying to please everyone else gets too complicated though, and hopefully, if we do what is best for ourselves, that will work out for everyone else too! Totally "get" your reasoning though!!! And it was good prep for next week!!

Thanks Goth Smile hope applications going OK

I like the sound of your first "list" today Bitchy! Hope you are feeling better

Huge wing flaps to Ellie WhatKatydidtoday

Last visitor departed -although can't really say I have had proper "visitors" this year as they came in dribs and drabs and stayed up the road - not here - as this house not really fit for guests atm, I'm ashamed to say Blush. Which just meant we had to do bigger meals - no problem in this house!

Bit of a sad weekend as one year since family bereavement but most of us went to commemorative mass yesterday which was good. Bit of a gloomy start to the year though as dh's parents both seriously ill.

Need to get down to some serious dieting/Flying now. Rest of Christmas cakes and chocs can go over to office tomorrow.

Don't know about you but the year 2013 has a bit of a penetential ring to it if you ask me (or is that just my (shaky) Catholicism coming out?) Really really want to try and buckle down this year, get myself healthy and fit and slimmer, house decluttered and in order, spend less and more judiciously, and try and start resolving some practical problems in the house which have been dragging us down for years.

Heigh ho. Onwards and upwards everyone - one step at a time!

Posting this now in case I lose it again. Back with part two in a minute.

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