chore list - need to get husband involved

[Carolinchina]

Does anyone have a chore list they use on a weekly basis? We've tried to just ensure we both clean on our days off but my husband never really seems to get anything done. I think it's time to get a list for him to tick off so I can see what he's doing and he can see just how much work I've been doing! whine, moan, I know... but any help would be appreciated!

We dont have a list but I can see how one would help someone who either doesnt know what needs doing or doesnt see dirt/mess.

Prefer to do my housework on wrking days though so I can relax on my days off. Could you maybe come up with two tasks that need doing every evening so you approach it more like "we need to vac up and change the bed linen, which would you rather?"

What does he do round the house currently?

Not much. He generally leaves a trail of mess everywhere he goes which means I'm constantly picking up after him. I've tried to just leave his mess alone but it doesn't bother him at all. Ho hum.

Hmm...well, get him roped in each evening - for instance I cook dinner and dh tidies the lounge up so when we both sit down to eat its in a nice tidy room.

Last one up puts a load in the wash and the first one up.pegs it.out.

Assuming you've tackled him about the mess and he's still forgetting it, I say pick up his mess and box and dump it in his favourite chair, in front of his computer... you get the picture.

Would the FlyLady list of basic chores help? As for as I remember (I'm living on a boat at the mo, so not doing the FlyLady system at the mo) there are about 5 chores, so one a day?

Are you married to the same man as me?

He is learning and I can forgive him. I lived with him and his parents for a while and seriously, his dad was still making his breakfast for him each morning, when he was 18 years old and had a DS of his own!!! He has never learned before and genuinely believes he is not capable.

Lists help, agree a couple things a day instead of at once and a routine.
Ask him to choose which jobs he'd prefer to do but,
Dont give him the option of nothing - "this and this needs doing now, which would you like?"

Go ape shit if it doesnt get done because it is not acceptable. You're his wife, not his mother.

WantAnOrange is right about choices, I call it the "toddler choice" - "would you rather wash the floor or clean the loo?" Makes it seem that doing neither isn't an option.

So sad that it has to come to treating him like a toddler! But I agree... He is acting like one anyway!

Thanks for the advice y'all.