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perfectingmygrowl · 03/03/2011 11:35

Hey hey

I have changed my name for this as I'm a bit embarrassed.

Hoping you may be able to offer some suggestions about how I can keep my house nice and sparkly and still smile.

Since starting maternity leave with dc2 in December I have taken on all housekeeping responsibility. This seems fair as I do have more time than dh. I just wish I could do it more graciously! I am starting to resent picking up after three other people and this means getting cross over ridiculously tiny things like an open wardrobe or dropped sock!! Not cool or attractive and reminds me of the kind of women I laugh at.

Anyway, DH is working really hard but I can't help but think he wouldn't be if he still did the school run etc. The extra time I give him by doing every single bloody thing in this bastard house (see told you it was unattractive!) is being spent in the office rather than with me and the children. I've tried raising it gently with him and it resulted in a bunch of flowers (gorgeous and kind but missing the point somewhat!)

any ideas?

growler

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CeliaFate · 03/03/2011 11:40

I could have written your post (except I'm not on mat leave, I don't work). I just repeat my mantra "At least I'm not in work" until the simmering resentment dies down. Then I come here and waste 2hours 30 minutes Grin

yama · 03/03/2011 11:48

I'm on mat leave with dc2. I tidy up after myself during the day, cook the evening meal and we both (dh and I) tackle the housework at night/weekend.

I didn't want to take on more for two reasons. Firstly, it's stressful and secondly when I go back to work I didn't want there to be an issue.

Sorry, no useful advice but I wanted to let you know that I would definitely be resentful if I had to do everything.

Longtalljosie · 03/03/2011 18:55

Join a Flylady thread - there's one just started. I resisted for a while but it really is the way to go.

Guacamole · 03/03/2011 18:59

I'm guilty of this, what's worse is that when DH does help 'he doesn't do it right' and I get even more cross.
I'm not sure what you can do, if I did, I'd be doing it myself.

perfectingmygrowl · 03/03/2011 19:30

thanks all - am going to try and have a word tonight....... want a bit more fun is all

Longtalljosie I follow fly routines but haven't joined a thread - may well do. thank you

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