If you have a dd aged 9-12 who keeps her room tidy. Can you tell me how you went about it?

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my dd will sort of tidy up if I ask her to (sort of). She is chaotic. Her room is always a mess. she is a hoarder and wants to keep everything. I wish I could throw out half of it.

Is there a way forward? Please tell me your success stories .

My dd's (aged 5 and 11) are pretty good at tidying, I started when they were about 2, getting them to help put toys back in the toy box with me, basically I taught them how to do it, rubbish in the bin, hair stuff in a box, games back in their box, dressing up stuff in another box etc then would give them a damp cloth to wipes the surfaces with.
A couple of times a year dh would take dc's out so I could gut their rooms and get rid of the mass of macdonalds toys etc and whatever I thought they didn't play with I'd bin bag and either give to charity or put in the attic.

We are a tidy family and set a good example to the girls I think. I'm a childminder so my house has to be tidy and clean to avoid the risk of tripping over things/ having small bits on the floor that children could choke on etc.

Now dd has been gutting her own room before birthday and christmas for the past couple of years. Dd1 will also dust her room with a damp cloth off her own back sometimes.

Every couple of weeks I have a cleaning lady who comes to the day before I will ask them to make sure the floor is clear so their rooms can be hoovered.

At the moment dd2 seems to be told to tidy her room a lot but I think soon she will realise it's better to get something out and ut it away again before getting other things out and that will help.

hth

thanks

well she tidied up her CDs (tons of those) of her own accord . I am amazed. She has sorted them into groups and if they are numbered in a series (Famous Five etc) she has them in numerical order.

Wow :)
Long may it continue (kidding yourself delusional emoticon)

oh it is such a comfort to hear that my DC are in fact quite similar to many of yours!!
My 11 yr old DD1 is terrible too. clothes everywhere...dirty washing NEVER make sit to the laundry bin, loads of cut up pieces of paper and crafty bits everywhere...sigh
worse than that she shares a room with dd2 and 3 (it is a fairly big rrom) and they're just as bad, and the room ends up looking worse than you could imagine!
I have tried everything! I also found the linking TV viewing to tidying room worked...as dd1 is a bit tv obsessed...but again never manage to keep it up. Done the whole black bag thing too, tried nagging/not nagging, setting good example, ignoring, shouting (not intentionally just out of frustration!), pocket money , bribery....gutting the room etc...nothing so far has created a sustainable result!
Mind you , I daren't even venture into DS1's(aged 12) room anymore and have more or less given up on that LOL

I think it just depends on the child tbh. DD1 has always been a very, very tidy child. DD2 hasn't. DD1 has always kept her room extremely tidy, dusted etc etc; dd2 hasn't.

We find that constant vigilance is the only thing that works with dd2 - ie: we check it at least every two days and then go bonkers at her!