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What would you put on your wedding list?

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ButterpieBride · 03/08/2010 12:38

OK, before you all start, I have told every single person that has asked that we are not expecting gifts but if they want to, they can bring a plate of food to the wedding or a donation to charity, but people still want to buy gifts, so we have made a list at amazon.

What on earth should we put on? I've chosen a few little bits for under £10, a couple of bigger bits in case any people want to club together and a couple of things inbetween.

Any ideas? We already have a rented house with the basics anyway, although they are mainly cheap versions, so some nice long lasting things would be good. I have added a few of the cheaper le cruset things (heatproof mats, ramekins, etc).

I have been looking at toys for the children, but would that be odd?

I have never bought a wedding present myself (only been to one as an adult and my DP was the compere as our present) so have no idea what is normal.

I hate asking for things, but it seems daft for people to spend money on things that we might never use.

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ButterpieBride · 03/08/2010 13:09

Would a wii be in bad taste? Obviously not expecting one person to buy it by themselves...

Would be more use (and get used more) than millions of scented candles though.

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nannyl · 03/08/2010 13:23

when me and OH eventually get married (we already have everything and i expect we will have kids first) i already know that i want some stainless steel le cruset pans, a set of really good knives and a magimix.

maybe a new top notch bread machine (but i expect i will have bought the one i really want by then)

maybe a really nice white company duvet set and possible some more peacock blue towels.

nannyl · 03/08/2010 13:24

maybe a new top notch bread machine (but i expect i will have bought the one i really want by then)

maybe a really nice white company duvet set and possible some more peacock blue towels.

nannyl · 03/08/2010 13:25

sorry... not sure how /why that double posted

SingleMumAndProud · 03/08/2010 13:26

How about a roomba?

whatnolooroll · 03/08/2010 13:29

I've never seen a wedding list with toys on it before but it's something I'd have great fun buying and I think it's more interesting than the usual range of kitchen equipment.

Everything else sounds perfectly reasonable and means if you have some friends/relatives who would prefer to get you 'normal' wedding items they can.

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ButterpieBride · 03/08/2010 13:35

What's a roomba?

What are good knives?

Is there such a thing as a good bread machine?

What price range should we be looking at do you think? Most of our friends are skint, so don't want to ask for too much, but then some relatives might like to spend more.

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SandStorm · 03/08/2010 13:41

When we got married we had a wedding list but on that list we also asked for a monetary contribution towards a specific item - not just "a bit of cash please". It meant people put anything from £3 to £50 towards something and they could see what it was they were buying a part of (in our case it was a £300 tapestry).

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ButterpieBride · 03/08/2010 13:52

Toys wise, what toys are good and will last a long while? Our girls are 3y and 8m. Nothing plastic or battery powered or overly pink please!

I'm wondering if maybe some good kitchen toys could be good- so on the list we will have kitcheny things for the grown ups and kitcheny toys as well.

How do I tell people about the list without being rude? Loads of people have asked about it, and I have told them it is with Amazon (along with the disclaimers about not really expecting anything etc) and they have insisted they want to buy us something, but no-one has bought from the list.

Obviously if nobody buys us presents, that is fine, but I know they are doing, and I hate that somebody might be agonsising over what to get us and might end up buying something that we don't have use for, when there is a list anyway.

Also, what do you do with gifts at the wedding? Do you open them there? Do you display them somehow? Do you take the stuff that has been delivered early to the wedding?

How about the charity donations- should we put out a box or something? It is for a small charity that helped my BIL when he was ill (he died in the end) so they don't have "official" collection boxes or anything.

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whatnolooroll · 03/08/2010 21:43

I think if you've already asked not to have gifts then you can only point people towards amazon when they ask. If no-one has bought from the list maybe try including a wider range of stuff. You could make it clear it's not just a wedding list but a general amazon wish list so people realise you don't expect to get everything on it bought right now. Hopefully it could even help with future birthday/christmas present choices.

Normally I think the presents just get put on a table and opened at some point later. I wouldn't bother taking stuff that has already been delivered just make sure the thank you cards are prompt so no-one worries their gift didn't arrive!

I'd just use a box with a slot cut in the top for the collection. Anything will do so long as it's clearly marked for the right charity.

Best of luck and enjoy your day

peachybums · 04/08/2010 14:55

If your anything like me youll treat the kids more than yourselves anyway so let people buy you a treat! It is your big day afterall, the kids will get spoilt all year round .

Id go round the house and look at things that look a bit shabby or dont do the job they are ment to and add it to a list or maybe you could ask them to help fund the honeymoon.

You could also ask for favours like babysitting so you could have some time together lol then the kids probs will get treated anyway ;)

MathsMadMummy · 04/08/2010 15:03

I got married when DD was 17m and I really think you SHOULD ask for something for YOU.

I don't think a wii is a bad idea actually.

the best wedding presents we got were a Magimix food processor and this fantastic board game

cue DH's 17yo son, who loves strategy games as much as we do, being desperate to play it that very night. "c'mon, let's all play it NOW, you two can go consumate after"

kayah · 04/08/2010 15:21

good kitchen scales
weights for hubby and/or you
nice warm throw to snuggle under
stainless steel hand blender
mini grinder
slow cooker or this
3 pressure cookers of different sizes (I use them all the time and they double up as pans too)

moonbells · 06/08/2010 15:29

we also said to folk that they needn't worry about presents since we already had too much junk in the house having combined two households!
We ended up with half a list at Lakeland and half at John Lewis. Both have gift vouchers so if someone didn't get a whole present, they could get a bit towards nominated big presents. In our case the biggy was a large multi-drawer chest from JL which has been a boon for stuffing things in like light bulbs and saved greetings cards - you know things you can't find a home for... it has big drawers (one of which we got fitted out as a cutlery drawer) and small ones, and we can lift the lid to get at them too if we shift the piles of laundry first.
It also doubles up as a table or a seat!

We also got lots of daft things that we'd never have justified on sanity alone.

And we took the bread machine on honeymoon to Cornwall with us cos we couldn't wait to try it out. We then got rained in by an Atlantic storm and had a wonderful time with fresh bread, local cheeses and nothing much to do but relax

(And nearly 6 years later we are about to lug it back down to Cornwall for this year's beach trip!) Which reminds me, need a loaf for tomorrow's breakfast...

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