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Living with ex partner

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Unknown63 · 21/08/2024 13:40

In a bit of a mess
no need to tell me I’m stupid for this one but.
im living with my now ex boyfriend at uni for our final year.
im looking for ways to transfer my tenancy and a new tenant.
my ex is making this really difficult saying he shouldn’t have to move out and he won’t live with a stranger purely because he doesn’t want me to leave.
im so aware of what is happening and that he is trying to keep me trapped there and if I felt safe living with him I would. But truth be told I don’t feel safe.
my contract doesn’t have a break clause so I’m wondering what on earth I can do.
one potential option is my guarantor did not fill all of the required information and the contract states this may void the contract. Is this something to persue or do I try find a new tenant to take my place. Does my ex have to agree on the new tenant, legally does he have the right to do that because I know he will say no to anyone I find no matter who they are.
thanks guys
:)

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ByCupidStunt · 21/08/2024 14:03

Have you paid upfront? I'd be tempted to pay what I owe giving the agreed amount of notice and then just walk away. Even if it meant paying two lots of rent

IdLikeToBeAFraser · 21/08/2024 14:09

What your ex wants is irrelevant. YOu need to find out what is required for you to break your tenancy. I don't know if you signed a joint agreement, or separate agreements or whatever. In my housesharing days, I did both - individual agreements with the landlord and a shared tenancy with a flatmate.

Either way, if your tenancy can be broken with x amount of notice, you need to go ahead and do that. Ignore what he says/wants. It's not relevant. Then it's up to him/the landlord to decide what to do.

if it's a joint tenancy, that might be a bit more complicated but again, I'd check the contract to see what it says. I know my SIL was able to remove her ex from their shared tenancy but I believe it required her to sign a new tenancy agreement.

Unknown63 · 21/08/2024 14:10

It’s a fixed term contract and I’m not sure I’m in the financial position to cover the entire rent and then find new housing. But I’ve not paid anything at all and don’t owe anything until october

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FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 21/08/2024 14:17

Contact your landlord, if you don't owe anything until October has the tenancy actually started?

Landlord might have potential contacts looking for tenancies especially if it's near university. I had to leave mine almost immediately due to family emergency and my LL filled my tenancy the same day with someone that would have had a long daily commute otherwise.

Unknown63 · 21/08/2024 14:25

The tenancy has started and my things are in the house but no payments including deposit have been made.
I have asked my agent for my landlords contact details so I will ask him

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DelphiniumBlue · 21/08/2024 14:39

Are you sharing on the same basis as random friends would, by which I mean each of you has signed a separate agreement, or have you jointly signed a lease. for a house with just the 2 of you?
It seems weird that your stuff is in the house, but you haven't even paid a deposit and the rent isn't due till October - what's the deal there?
What does the contract say about dates?
If you can give more info it would help.
It might be worth telling Ex that either he agrees to find someone else to move in , or you will cancel the tenancy - you might be able to do this if it hasn't started yet, and no money has changed hands, but the threat might make him be more flexible.
If there is not a clause against subletting, you could just sublet your room without his consent, depending on the tenancy.
I agree best to contact landlord and see what the possibilities are, but check the contract/tenancy agreement in detail so you know if you have a bargaining position.

Unknown63 · 21/08/2024 14:43

They did attach this document which looks as though I could pay a leaving fee and terminate my contract early?

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Unknown63 · 21/08/2024 14:45

We have signed a separate agreement.
because it’s a student property they have aligned payments with when we receive student finance, hence no rent due.
the no deposit is just as bizzare to me as it is you!

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 21/08/2024 15:06

I would contact your student union for advice asap including explaining how you feel afraid of him. They can help you negotiate to leave earlier with landlord. Or if they can't, they might be able to find you cheap accom on campus.

Unknown63 · 21/08/2024 15:13

Thank you for this, I have booked in an appointment for tomorrow. In the stress of it I had forgotten the uni may be able to help me

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