My 5 year old wont do his home work has artism

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My 5 year old wont do his home work he dosent refuse becouse he just dosent want to he has a melt down and insists he has done work at school and brakes down he has artisum sensory overloads and we have tryed every different way to help him but he gets so under pressure i dont want to do that to him to affect him like that im underpressure from the school ive explained and ask there help and the only answer i get is that he has to do it regardless and no child will be exempt from it even though im not asking them to do that but realistically i carnt force him its really distressing him as he gets fixed ideas and im just asking for them maybe to understand that im trying and willing but i carnt rewire his mind i can only find other ways to support him but its also not fair to push him to the limits of distress to the point hes lost self control can anyone please give any advice on there views please

Homework is not compulsory at primary school
Encourage but dont force

This is a fairly normal issue for autistic kids.
Usually it would be recommended that the child go to a homework club so they are doing the work in school (because in their mind school work is for at school,not home) or to scrap homework until they are older

I’m autistic. I never did my homework and all of my worst memories are of my parents trying to enforce it. School is for working, not home. I’d coped all day with pretending as best as I could to cope and be normal and when I get in i need a break. By that time of the day every nerve feels like it’s on fire and your brain is going to explode your eyes hurt and just having someone talk to you can be what pushes you over he edge into meltdown territory.

If your going to make him do his homework let him come in play, eat, watch tv and relax and once he’s calm and happy slowly introduce the idea that homework starts after five and don’t make him work on it for more than 20mins if you can help it even if it means taking breaks.

Even now as a 23yr old at uni I struggle to work on anything anywhere I have subconsciously decided is not where or when I work. But he’ll get there, he just needs some breathing space.

I reccomend looking up Autistic not Weird, Autisitc Genius and Asperations and Autsomness and Supporty McGroup Face on Facebook. They’re great support sites that I use. They’re rand by autistic adults to help autistic people and their family’s connect with others and understand strategies and get tips and advice that actually work without harming the autistic person, whereas what we’re told by the NHS and support services tend to be detrimental to us in the long term. Feel free to message me if you need or want any support as well. I can help give you some advice on why your son thinks or behaves the way he does.

Oh that is so mean to remove my posts! I was joking but I did wonder if the op was joking because she said 'artism' instead of 'autism' and then she said 'asparagus' instead of 'aspergers'. One wrong word is common but when it was two funny words I felt sure she was having a laugh.

Anyway I'm sorry, I wasn't meaning to be unkind.