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regrets about unschooling.

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Iloveponies · 08/07/2010 08:56

Does anyone regret not following a formal curriculum?

I feel like I need the security of a curriculum just to prove we are doing something, but like the idea of a child led approach too. Does not following a recognised curriculum affect a childs ability to complete GCSE's later. My daughter is 11 and my son 10 so do I need something more solid iyswim.

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sarah293 · 08/07/2010 09:03

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MathsMadMummy · 08/07/2010 09:04

I'm not HEing but could you follow a curriculum but also make sure you build on it too? My DCs will be going to school (slightly about that) but IMVHO the NC is quite restrictive so we'll be giving them plenty of opportunities to explore other topics.

sorry that's not really what you're asking is it

anyway, I've heard you can just choose what exam you'll do and study the books, as they'll tell you what you need to know. loads of autonomous edders seem to do exams, so I don't think they're mutually exclusive

SDeuchars · 08/07/2010 09:08

Does anyone regret not following a formal curriculum?

Nope, sorry. Sometimes, I'd like to be able to say we did X, Y and Z, so I know they know Blah. But that is just my insecurity and inferiority complex showing .

I know that the DC know all sorts of stuff at a deep level (my DD could do the Tudors on Mastermind) and that they are prepared to tackle most things (DS has just started Russian formally and is racing through it, enjoying the intellectual challenge). Whether I (or anyone else) can measure what they know is not important.

Does not following a recognised curriculum affect a childs ability
to complete GCSE's later.

No. Many DC decide to do a GCSE exam and take about six months to work through the syllabus before the exam. If they want to take it (e.g. to get into college), they will be motivated and will do what they need to do. It is not necessary to "practice" maths, for example, for 30 mins per day over 11 years in order to be able to pass GCSE. In fact, some of us would suggest that that very "practice" may harm some children's ability to do maths.

Look at www.home-education-exams.org.uk/ to see what some EHE young people have done. Many (I'd say most) have been educated autonomously.

Iloveponies · 08/07/2010 09:26

Thankyou for the really interesting replies,
I am itching to start now, my problem for now is that we are in Switzerland and the authorites really dont like homeschool where I am. I think we will be back in England next year,that will be an ideal opportunity for me to start,I will have lots of time to read up and think about the way forward. Will probably be back asking questions if I may.

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MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 08/07/2010 10:13

Read How Children Learn At Home by Alan Thomas. He says that children who are allowed to be 'informal learners' usually naturally get to an age where they naturally ask for more formal education - courses and such like.

Iloveponies · 08/07/2010 12:57

I have just ordered that MrsWobble

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Saracen · 09/07/2010 01:06

Does anyone regret not following a formal curriculum?

No. Not yet, anyway. My older daughter is ten. For some things in life, it is useful to know how to take an exam, how to write a formal letter, etc. But you don't need years of full-time study to learn those skills; you can swot up on them fairly quickly when you have the need.

Many children (children who've not been put off learning by school) naturally start inclining to a more formal approach in some of what they do, sometime after the age of ten. My daughter is flirting with doing more formal studies. I'm not pushing it.

I remember arriving at high school after several years at a radical progressive primary school which required little formal work. The English teacher had quite a rant about our previous school: we might be "creative", she said, but we hadn't even been taught that one must leave a margin round an essay, put one's name at the top rather than the bottom of the page, summarise our arguments in the first paragraph, etc. I sat there quite astonished, thinking, "OK, now you have shown us exactly what you want us to do. It has taken you all of five minutes to do so. What's the big deal? Why did we need to arrive knowing these details already?"

I mean to say, I doubt that it's difficult to inject formal study skills into an older child or adult who has a passion for learning. But is it easy to do the reverse, to ignite a spark of enthusiasm in someone who has spent too many years concentrating on formulating exam answers which match the examiners' requirements?

julienoshoes · 09/07/2010 14:52

We have no regrets.
All three of ours are young adults now and doing well in the world of work, going to Uni and at FE college.

They have done so much better than ever predicated when they were at school and following a formal curriculum there.

I do know so many of my children's peers.
They have added me as friends on FaceBook and I know them well in real life too. It's so good to be congratulating the autonomously home ed ones, who are doing so well with the OU, at FE college and at Uni.

I was talking to a close friend and parent of a home ed teen, going off to Edinburgh Uni in Sept, about all of the autonomously home ed teens that we both know and how very well they have all done..........and she said 'well of course, we have come to expect it now haven't we?'
It is really good to see the results now, as we worried about whether this was the right path at times, as I am sure most parents do. But then of course, we'd see the children progressing in life and developing such a love of learning as they went along and that helped me put doubts aside.

I expect to be congratulating loads of my childrens friends in person this coming week at HesFes!

Finishing · 18/07/2010 22:40

Thanks for the positive stories.
I'm just setting out on the autonomous HE road and it's good so far.

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