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Want to Home School my ASD ds.

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shimmerysilverglitter · 25/06/2010 10:28

Ds currently in main stream. He is not coping well at all and an emergency review of his statement has been called with a view to getting him into a Special School.

I honestly believe he would be better off at home with me. Have been looking into it today and already ordered a few materials. This has been on the back burner since he started school 2 years ago.

Is there anyone else with an ASD or SN child who is home edding and also what are the rules/laws surrounding it? I read on another thread that once he is in Special School I have to request permission to withdraw him.

Any information at all would be fab. Many thanks.

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Marjoriew · 25/06/2010 10:35

Hello, shimmerysilverglitter.
Re: I think the Special School thing only applies if you live in Scotland.
I expect someone will be along to help you out better with links and stuff

smallwhitecat · 25/06/2010 10:35

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streakybacon · 25/06/2010 10:43

I HE my ds who's 11 with AS. Best thing I ever did for him was to withdraw him at the start of Y5. He was in bits because of lack of support but he's thriving now, both academic and socially. Still a long way to go but everyone who meets us agrees he wouldn't get anything like the level of support in school that he gets at home, including EHE advisor.

it's hard work, but imo it's far easier than pissing in the wind trying to get support from an LEA and schools that don't give a monkey's.

I think you DO have to get permission to withdraw from special school, even in England and Wales, but would need to check (my copy of School Is Not Compulsory is out on loan atm ).

streakybacon · 25/06/2010 10:44

Oh, and the statement would continue with annual reviews to ensure the needs are still being met.

macwoozy · 25/06/2010 11:22

Like streakybacon I also withdrew my ds(AS) at the beginning of year 5 and have no regrets.

Academically he's doing better, socially...well this is a concern but at least I can make sure all his experiences with other children remain positive.

I'm also fairly sure than once your ds moves to a special school you will need permission to home educate.

Good luck shimmery, I so know how difficult it is to make that final decision

SDeuchars · 25/06/2010 11:26

Yes, you do need permission to withdraw from a special school. Unless you are sure that you want to go this route, I would hold off on the statement review. If there is a special school mentioned on the statement, you may get additional aggro, even if you decide never to send him.

Lots of people EHE their ASD children. They often find it removes a lot of issues and allows them to concentrate on the things that are important to them and their DC.

The Aspergers' page of the HE-Special website has useful info. That site is also linked to an emal group.

knat · 25/06/2010 11:27

I he my dd who is 6 and has aspergers. She did 7 months in mainstream school and it wqas a nightmare. She was so thin, self harmed and her behaviour was destructive adn violent. 14 months on and she's put on weight, less destructive and hardly self harms now. She is still very very hard work believe me but she is learning more than she would at school both socially and academically. You can tailor things to suit them more and give them more positive social experiences rther than them being bombarded with them. Special school wasnt an option for my dd as she can hardly cope with 3 people in a room chatting so even smaller classes would provide a problem coupled with the environment of a school, general noise, lighting etc etc. If you do go special school route I do think you have to ask permission. If you want to go for it, try it, you can always look at putting him back if it doesn't work out. Good luck.

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shimmerysilverglitter · 25/06/2010 16:44

Thank you all very much for your responses. Have been doing lots of research today. Great to hear all your very positive stories.

I attended a meeting today with a view to getting him into Special School, been to see the school and it looks pretty amazing actually and will be full of staff who actually get him iyswim?

My concerns now though are that if it doesn't work out it will be doubly hard to get him out and HE. I sort of feel that I have to explore every option though.

So hard all this, to know the right thing to do.

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knat · 26/06/2010 10:43

That's great you've find a school that seems to be so good. I think having people there who get him will help tremendously. The only thing for my dd was the actual school environment in terms of noise, people etc so I suppose it depends how your ds gets on with that side of things. It's a very tricky situation and I completly sympahise. If you really think the school could be the right option could you take your son to see it and see how he reacts there? I would think that it depends what his problems with school actually are - what the triggers are?

StarOfValkyrie · 26/06/2010 10:50

YOu might want to explore this. I don't know the answer but it might hold the key.

Parents are 'entitled' in law to have their child educated in a mainstream school, so if the special school isn't working out, perhaps you can get him moved legally to ms, and THEN take him out iyswim.

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shimmerysilverglitter · 26/06/2010 13:34

Thanks, there does seem to be lots of avenues to go down, so we would not be stuck in a difficult situation.

I have been to see the school and the thing I noticed the most was how quiet it was, perfect for ds as the unpredictability of mainstream is often a trigger for him, other kids who don't get him and argue with him or even hit him etc.

Thats a good idea though, that if it doesn't work out there I can say that I want him moved back to MS and then go from there.

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LucindaCarlisle · 18/07/2010 09:46

Shimmery, How old is your son?

I have considerable experience of ASD and have visited "state of the art" Special schools for ASD and also seen how Special Colleges (residential) can give AS young people the skills to live independently
And prepare Aspergers Young people to succeed at University.

Marjoriew · 18/07/2010 09:59

Shimmeryglittersilver, sorry to interrupt your thread.
Shena, I have sent you a message on TES.

LucindaCarlisle · 19/07/2010 12:38

Marjoriew. Please stop using other peoples threads to send silly and inane messages. It is bad netiquette.

Marjoriew · 20/07/2010 08:39

Shimmery, and all you others here who have children with Asperges.
One of my grandchildren has just got a diagnosis of Asperges last week. My daughter is worried for him - for his future. I didn't think of it before, but seeing how my daughter has reacted to the diagnosis, I don't know how you all manage.

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