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Some questions about HE

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Tacey · 03/05/2010 20:35

I'm considering home educating my DD and any other little ones who come along in the future, but I've got some things I'm unsure about. I've got time to think it through, as she's only 8 months old (planning ahead!)

What would you do if you couldn't continue home schooling out of financial necessity or illness? Wouldn't that be terribly hard on a child who had only been educated at home?

What do you do about facilities you don't have access to, such as chemicals for chemistry experiments?

What if she gets sick of having me around her all the time?

Do the children get a rounded education?

I know this sounds very negative, but I'm pretty sold on the idea. These are just a few worries I return to. Thanks for any advice!

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SDeuchars · 04/05/2010 09:57

What would you do if you couldn't continue home schooling out of financial necessity or
illness? Wouldn't that be terribly hard on a child who had only been educated at home?

This is not meant to sound dismissive - I'd wait until it happens (or is about to) and then re-evaluate what is best for the family. The answers are likely to be entirely different depending on the age and stage of the DC.

In general, EHE children do not have problems going into school if that is what they have decided to do (I'm assuming that you would be involving them in the decision at an appropriate level). They are often very able to get on with people of different ages because they are not used to spending a lot of time in groups segregated by age. They may also find the behaviour of their age peers in school/college to be immature.

My DD (now 18 and EHE since birth) and I had a discussion about it recently. She said that in the event of my sudden death (!) she would do her best to ensure that her brother (16) could continue with EHE.

What do you do about facilities you don't have access to, such as chemicals for chemistry
experiments?

That really has not been a problem. For small children, kitchen chemistry is brilliant. We used yeast, bicarb/vineger, egg whites and made vegetable dyes. As well as the fun of making, you get to eat most of the results! Film developing chemicals are also easily available - pinhole cameras made from Pringles tubes are great fun.

If you decide to do more formal chemistry, there are chemistry kits available for equipment and most chemicals that you'd want are available from pharmacists or online.

What if she gets sick of having me around her all the time?

This question does not compute, really. She won't know anything different and it will be natural and normal to her. Children do not suddenly change and need separation from parents at 4 or 5. As she grows, you will grow with her and give her the independence she needs when she needs it. It may be that you and your partner will share the time between you in a more overt fashion. Or that a relative, neighbour or friend will do a particular activity with her.

For about three years, my DC have been doing courses with the OU. So we tend to separate after breakfast and they work on their courses and I do paid work (or write emails and on forums, LOL). They come and talk to me if they want help to think something through. We come together again for lunch and dinner and at each meal we discuss who is doing what in the rest of the day and whether we want to do anything together (e.g. we may watch a DVD together if no-one is going out).

When they were younger, we were together most of the time but that tends to be more of a problem for the adult than the children - the "can't I even go to the loo alone?" syndrome experienced by all carers of small children.

Do the children get a rounded education?

They get an individualised education suitable to their age, aptitude and ability - whatever that means. It can be as rounded or as pointed as you and they choose. I tended to find that very small children are natural scientists - passionately interested in finding out how the world works. This meant that we did a lot of practical work (craft, experiments, cookery) in the early years. I did a lot of reading aloud and the DC did things obsessively (my DS at 7 or 8 was word-perfect in "Walking with Dinosaurs"). I was also keen to make sure that they tried every opportunity that presented itself. Some of those things continued, some were tried for a period of time and then dropped. However, my DC know that the whole world is out there and that there are many things that we have not touched on. They also know that if they have a need to find out about something, then they can go and do so. For example, when our EHE robotics team won a place at a competition in Tokyo, we all decided to learn a bit of Japanese.

School tends to be building from the bottom up - providing underpinning knowledge because the DC will need it in the future to be able to do something. For many people, that is not a natural way to structure knowledge - we usually have a goal and we pursue that goal, learning the skills and knowledge we need to achieve it. It is a more organic and holistic way of learning and therefore tends to be more efficient (in that people remember what they have learnt because they have a specific and intrinsic motivation for learning it).

AMumInScotland · 04/05/2010 10:24

If you had to stop - I think this would only be a problem if you had not given your child any chances to spend time apart from you - at groups etc - and they were very clingy. And, generally, HE children do get plenty of chances to spend time with other people, because learning to get along with other people is an aim which HE parents would normally have for their children, so having to go to school if circumstances changed wouldn't be a terrible experience for them.

Facilities - there are lots of "household" science experiments which you can do at home, and chemistry sets for older children. You also have access to the practical application of chemistry in the kitchen. Not much of the school equipment is actually necessary.

What if she gets sick of having me around her all the time? Do you plan to be around her all the time? When she's 4 or 5 you probably will be a lot, but surely you'll also be taking her to groups and meeting up with other families, where the kids can do their own thing without you on top of them. Once she's reading and writing, you'll also find you don't need to sit with her all the time while she's working on something - as she gets older and more independent, your role will change.

Do the children get a rounded education? They get whatever you jointly decide to do! If you want to make sure she learns about history, or French, or any particular subject, then you just need to find ways to include it. The main difference is that you don't have to cover things as separate subjects - you might be looking at a history book and get an interest in the clothes they wore, or the food they ate, or the geography of different countries and how that affected their wars - you don't then have to say "Oh we have to stop thinking about that because we're only doing history this morning" you can follow the thought where it leads.

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 04/05/2010 11:30

What they all said ^^^

Plus, read some books - Free Range Education by Terri Dowty is very good. Also How Children Learn At Home by Alan Thomas and Harriet Pattison. Anything by John Holt too.

And read home ed blogs for inspiration and understanding how it actually works in practice.

I also started meeting up with other home educators long before my DD1 was of school age - when she was about 2 I think. If you make contact with your local home ed group, I'm sure someone would be happy for you to go and meet them and talk to them.

Tacey · 04/05/2010 12:12

Thank you all very much for your replies. They've helped me to straighten out a few of the remaining niggles I had. I'm getting more and more convinced that this is the way we will be going. I shall have a look at the books you've recommended and get in touch with a local group I've found. I'm pretty sure I'll be returning to this forum too! Thanks again.

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SDeuchars · 04/05/2010 12:35

BTW, I have a friend who is a lab technician in a secondary school. We were talking about making yoghurt without using an electric gadget (or possibly sour dough, I can't remember) and she said they'd done it at school but the kids could not eat the results because it'd been left in a lab overnight and could not be guaranteed to be uncontaminated. What a waste!

Thediaryofanobody · 04/05/2010 12:54

Just remembered a few weeks ago someone started to Qs my DH when he was out with DD and asked DD "Oh but wouldn't you like to go school and play with all the other children"
Before DD could answer DH quickly asked her DD (aged 4 too) " Oh but wouldn't you like to stay home with mummy all day"
The other mother didn't like that much but it did point out how rude and undermining she was.

I try my best not be be defensive and always start out open and friendly about the topic but the questioners can get rather aggressive and even defensive of Schooling. They don't seem to get that telling me I'll raise my children to be socially backwards, fall behind peers, make them lazy and self indulgent is in fact bloody rude!

Thediaryofanobody · 04/05/2010 12:59

just realised I posted this on the wrong thread ignore me.

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