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A young Mum's successful HE story.

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CosmicMum27 · 15/03/2010 01:53

I have just spent the last hour reading through various HE threads and thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it!

I noticed many of the threads are from concerned Mothers who are anxious about beginning to home educate, so I wanted to share my story and hopefully a little wisdom about this wonderful world of home education.

I'm 27 years old with a 10 year old Son (as you can probably work out I became a Mother at a very young age) whom I have been home educating for almost 3 years. My Son began experiencing problems within school (bullying, falling behind etc) and after months of watching him become more and more stressed I decided to take the plunge and remove him from school.

Literally within weeks I saw a different child emerge, a confident, happy, relaxed and calm child. You could almost see the stress dissolving!

I unschooled for a few months, then panicked slightly and began to plan a tight timetable of hourly lessons. I tried to replicate 'school'. After a month or so, I realised this system I had devised was not working, and subsequently decided to scrap the whole curriculum and start afresh!

This decision led me and my Son down a path that would spur us onto the most incredible educational journey.

I'm a self educated writer and researcher, on subjects that many people don't particularly find interesting; Astophysics, metaphysics, universal cycles, earthly cycles, pre-ancient history, astronomy, seismic/solar/magnetosphere activity, and also a strong interest in conserving the environment.

I find these mind expanding subjects are lacking in the mainstream education. Schools seem to have a way of closing down on a child's mind rather than opening, expanding and strengthening it. Also schools do not tell a child that everything (especially in science) is just theory, that ANYTHING is actually possible. Children are not encouraged to free think or even think for themselves.

Anyway, I decided I would construct a kind of 'Earth Education' system where basically the world and Universe is his classroom, where anything is possible!

My Son is now doing amazingly, his reading age at 5 years was 4.6 years, it's now 11.11 years! (and he has only just turned 10)...

We do project after project on all kinds of different subjects, I find the longer the project, the more he soaks up and remembers. We still do math and english etc, but I always add a seperate element to make it more interesting and enticing.

Also, the work I do with my Son regarding the environment has produced results far beyond what I imagined. When a child respects his/her surroundings, they in turn respect themselves. My Son has a beautiful compassion for the Earth, animals and other people, I have found that encouraging this (which is there naturally) raises their own self esteem. Children understand how they are connected to nature, something many adults lose along the way.

So I just wanted to share with you a really positive HE story, I would recommend it to ANYONE!... I earn very little, and I am a single parent, so if I can do it, anyone can.

If I could give any advice, it would first be to relax! Unschool for as long as you feel necessary, don't feel pressured to stick to guidelines, and don't feel the need to replicate school.

Discover your child's interests, encourage them, and watch them flourish. Don't push the reading, it comes naturally!

If your child dislikes maths, I found maths activities online really helped, it keeps them focused for longer, rather than staring at a text book. My Son doesn't like writing for long periods at a time, but sometimes he likes to write spontaneously (usually at night in bed) and that's fine! There are no rules with HE!

I have found everything evolves naturally, there's no need to rush them or to panic. I know it's easy for me to say that, but I think most will agree with me.

And last but not least, pump them with curiosity, support, love and life! Let them question as much as they like, if you don't know the answer, discover it together!

:D

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MathsMadMummy · 15/03/2010 09:11

What a great post! That's really inspiring
I hope you'll visit the board a lot in the future and share some wisdom!

BTW all the topics you research are way over my head, but I do find them fascinating, and my DH reads about that a lot.

mummyloveslucy · 15/03/2010 09:43

Wow, what a lovely story! I have thought about HE in the past, and I plan to HE when my daughter finnishes primary school. She's only 5 at the moment. She has some SEN's.
She is enjoying primary school as it's a tiny class and she has a great relationship with her teacher and has lots of friends.
The secondary schools in our area are another story though. I wouldn't feel at all happy with her going to any of them.
I went to one of them, and can honestly say, I hated every moment.
The only thing I worry about, is the fact that she's an only child and she'd miss out on friendships and sociolising with other children. How did you get around this?
Do you meet up with other people who HE?
The school my daughter goes to is private, so I don't know how long I can afford to keep her there. I would love to think that if she has to come out, then I can HE her rather than having to send her to what ever school happens to have a place.

CosmicMum27 · 15/03/2010 10:15

Thanks MathsMadMummy!

Mummyloveslucy, my Son is and will remain an only child (through choice) and I've found no problems whatsoever in getting him to socialise and meet other children.

He is in a football club, which he attends twice a week. If I had a daughter though, I would have introduced her to dancing (you can usually find local schemes that are either free or inexpensive) I take my Son to the local park where he has an established group of friends to play with.

Swimming, tennis, summer schemes etc.

He also has one close friend, and I get them together as often a possible after school/weekends etc.

And yes I've met up with other HE families, and that's been fantastic, all in all I find my Son will happily mix and play with children of all ages, but he is also comfortable in his own company, which I believe is really important for later life and self esteem.

I can totally relate with you about the secondary schools, I have three younger teenage siblings and have seen the effects of bad secondary schools.

I'm definitely planning on HE right the way through. :D

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mummyloveslucy · 15/03/2010 10:29

Thanks cosmicmummy, it does sound great.

I do also worry that because she has some SEN's, If she didn't progress very quickly or became even more behind, I'd think it was because of her HE and not something that would've happened anyway.
I'd like her to stay at school until she can do the basics, then I'd find HE a lot easier I think.

CosmicMum27 · 15/03/2010 14:13

Mummyloveslucy I can completely relate and understand your concern that if progress wasn't quickly evident you would be tempted to question whether or not it was because of HEing.

The great thing with HE is that yu will come to discover her strength and weaknesses, and you will be able to encourage and improve on her SEN's with her strengths.

There is so much room for experiment and trial and error in HE until you find exactly what works for your daughter.

And with constant one to one in learning, they progress in leaps and bounds.

x

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mummyloveslucy · 16/03/2010 11:13

Thanks CosmicMum, it's definatly worth seriously thinking about for the future. I'd like to give it a go and see how we get on. If the times comes and we can no longer afford the school, we could HE until a place became available at a good school and then we'd have the option of sending her there if HE didn't work out.
I'm going to look in to HE in our area and see how many other familys do it and if they meet up together.

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