message for JULIE.................julienoshoes if she's around?

[interflora]

Hi Julie,

I wonder if you could help me?

We need to know how to word a de-registration letter to a school in Wales?

Also need to know if one letter is sufficient to de-register more than one child from school, or do we need a letter for each child?

Also, much to our embarrassment as a decent, law-abiding family who look after the children to the point of spoiling them rotten, we were referred to social services earlier this year, it was due to a very sad person with nothing better to do with their time.

Thankfully, social services saw the situation for what it was - pure malice without a grain of truth in it - and they took no notice of the referral and informed us they had no need to investigate and that the file had been closed immediately.

We are now worried in case the education authority, the school head in particular, tries to be 'funny' when she reveives our de-registering letter, and starts trouble for us with the authorities, namely social services. The school head knows about it as we approached her asking if she'd write a letter to ss to inform them that our dc are more than well-cared-for. Obviously we didn't need to send the letter to ss as they'd informed us in the meantime that they'd already closed the file! But the fact that she knows about that incident is what bothers us as we don't know her very well so not sure what she's capable of, especially as taking out dc out of her school will mean that she has 5 less names on the register and the school is on the list of threatened closure as it is, they have far less than the 50 pupils needed for the school to remain open.

Do you know about such cases? If so could you share your knowledge with us please.
As you can imagine, we are desperately worried.

Sorry to ask for you directly on here, you are the one in-the-know so there's always a queue seeking advice from you!

TIA

Do the rules differ in Wales than other regions of the UK?

have you looked on the education otherwise website? They have all the de-reg advice and draft letters on there.

www.educationotherwise.org

worth becoming a member of it too if you plan to HE, as always full of support and advice.

one of many HE organisations out there. Hopefully julienoshoes will be along soon.

The "How to deregister" thread which Julie wrote is for "England & Wales" so I think you're safe enough to follow the same rules. I've just bumped it to the top - it has a link to EO for suggested wording.

The school only needs to be told that you are deregistering the child(ren) so you could list them all in the same letter. Just make sure you keep a copy and get a receipt or acknowledgement in case it ever gets queried.

The head can't stop you from deregistering your children, but she could I suppose contact SS and tell them there was a previous worry - but if they have that on record as "no problem" I can't see why they'd change their opinion now.

HTH

thanks for your advice - will go check out the website now, thanks for reassuring us especiaaly with regards to ss thanks

I am sure that AMIS is right-the deregistration letter is the same for Wales.

Have you found the Home Education Cymru List?
Run by Mike Fortune-Wood, who also owns the excellent HE-UK website, and who lives in Wales himself.
Folks there will be supportive of home ed in Wales in particular and you may be able to find folks near to you-which always helps.

hth

sorry didn't answer the other questions.
If SS have closed the case, there shouldn't be a problem, but you may get a referral again. I am certain that folks near to you would be supportive.
If you want to talk more off forum, you can reach me through the Worcestershire Home Ed website contact address, which will come straight to my inbox.

The HT may be upset at your leaving but she won't be able to stop it.

And yes I agree, one letter for all the children attending the same school, would be all that is required. (We had to do three as the children were all at different schools as we have a first, middle and high school system here)

Hi Julie,

Thanks for your replies.

Unfortunately whenever I try sending you emails by using links from the website, it is returned to me as 'undeliverable'.

Not sure what the problem is, I wonder if you could email me directly:

[email protected]

Sorry to bother you, thanks

omg the de-registering letter is right here in front of me awaiting dh to post it later on by guaranteed next day delivery...omg omg omg we're not sure how we are meant to feel iyswim we're both overcome with excitement, anxiety, panic - loads of different emotions sweeping over us simultaneously.

Right then...the letter will arrive at the school tomorrow, we will more than likely receive confirmation from the head that our dc have been removed from the register...what then? Ok, we all chill out for a good few weeks, tbh we were aiming to chill out completely on the education thingy until the new year actually, with christmas coming up, with so much going on atm we feel it would probably be unwise to 'start' on the learning process, whichever route our home-ed journey takes us - autonomous appeals more than any other to us, but we are quite apprehensive as to whether we will actually succeed in teaching our dc anything.

Does anyone have information/feedback on Kumon Maths and English Teaching or maybe other online tuition or maybe give us some idea how we go about finding appropriate tutors and the approximate fees etc.

If anyone has time on their hands, julienoshoes in particular, or anyone with vast experience of home-ed, we'd be ever so grateful for some much needed reassurance please.

TIA

anyone??????? tips gratefully received.

TIA

I think you should maybe start by thinking about how you plan to go about this - are you thinking autonomous, or are you thinking tutoring and a set basic timetable? That depends to an extent what your personalities are like, and what issues the children have had at school. Do they like worksheets etc, or would they hate the idea? You need to be a bit clearer about that before you can decide on the way forward. But don't rush - as you say, take some time out first!

Hi Interflora,
I think your first plan is the best. Put all the education-style thing on the back burner and enjoy chilling out and give it at least till the New Year to even begin to think which road you're going to take.
It's a panicky time that first few days, almost like you go into shock but your way forward will gradually unfold as you go along. Read some HE books, chat/meet up with other HomeEdders if possible.
Think of something you'd all like to do for that lovely first day out of school. We went up to London for the day and took a boatride up the Thames, the kids wore their most colourful clothes and we took their school uniform to a charity shop! I'll never forget that day and we still mark it like a birthday every year! I agree with AMIS, don't rush it. We're not rushing it and that's after 3 years!!! Relax and enjoy the freedom

I'm emailing you off forum right now.