Hi
In my view, the best thing is to be guided by your son. If you can still get hold of them, the Peter and Jane and Janet and John books are an excellent resource.
(Yes, I know, I am showing my age. I learnt to read using them and was happily reading before I went to school at 4 and 1/2)
If you can teach him to read, at his pace, and encourage a love of learning and reading BEFORE he goes to school, he will be at a great advantage.
You cannot really do anything wrong.
Offer him love, support, encouragement and put as many different books in front of him as you can. Read to him and then allow him to read back to you.
Learning to read with phonics is a subject that has caused much debate. Its effectiveness has been called into question on numerous occasions.
Phonics works well in phonetic languages such as Spanish, where each letter always has the same sound. For example "a" would always be pronounced "a as in bat".
English is not a phonetic language and this is one of the major downsides of trying to teach children to read using phonics.
It is also one of the reasons why there is a generation of 20-somethings, who can't spell!
Just my thoughts.
Amanda Goldston
www.GoldstonAcademyForTheInsane.com