Help with school please!

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I’m hoping for some advice from anyone who’s been through this, as I’m really not good with confrontation.
I’ve made the difficult decision that I’m going to home educate both of my boys, but I have no idea how to approach the meeting with the school or what I should say.
My youngest is 6 and has really struggled in school. For around five months he was only attending from 9am until 10am because the school said they couldn’t safely manage him due to him trying to leave the school grounds. His hours have gradually increased to 11:30am, but he’s still only on a part-time timetable. Both of my boys have ADHD and autism and both struggle with school.
I’ve been asking for EHCP assessments for years, but nothing seems to happen. Now I’m being told they’ll start the process in September, but after waiting so long I just feel like I’ve lost confidence that things are ever going to improve. The situation has also affected me, as I’ve had to change my university plans because I need to collect my youngest so early every day.
I genuinely feel that home education is the best option for our family, but I’m really anxious about telling the school. I’m not a naturally confident person, and I hate confrontation. My mum will be coming with me for support, but I’m worried I’ll freeze and won’t know what to say.
For anyone who’s been through this, how did you tell the school? What should I expect them to ask, and is there anything I should or shouldn’t say? Any advice or experiences would be really appreciated.
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You don’t need to attend a meeting, just send an email- look up HEFA on FB for a template. Send it after you collect the children for the last time and then you don’t have to deal with them at all.

Yeah don’t bother with the meeting. If they haven’t met his needs by now, there’s no point in meeting?
Send in the de-reg letter and breathe a massive sigh of relief. I guarantee you’ll feel a stone lighter once it’s sent!

Thankyou so much, it’s caused so much stress on me, I’m so worried about what they’re going to say as every time I fetch him they’re on about what they’re putting in place in September and it makes me so nervous to even say anything.

I third just sending a letter rather than having a meeting.

Just so you are aware, you can request an EHCNA yourself now. You don’t need the school to do it. On their website, IPSEA has a model letter you can use.

The school is currently unlawfully, informally suspending DS. If you change your mind about EHE, DS can attend full-time if you want him to unless the school formally suspends.

And if you didn’t want to EHE, if DS cannot attend school, the LA has a duty to ensure he still receives a suitable full-time education.