Waiting for school space

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Long story short, my daughter is on the pathway for ASD. I have had multiple meetings with the head teacher about making reasonable adjustments in school, one being that if she does something inappropriate or which needs correcting, she is taken aside and away from other children and it explaining to her thoroughly what she has done, so that she can register it and understand. My daughter laughed at another child last week (one of her traits, being abrupt and laughing when she shouldn’t), and they placed her on a wall, and made her watch all the other children play. She had no understanding of what she had done wrong, and came out of school overwhelmed and had a meltdown. When I approached the teachers, they said they removed her break time because she shouldn’t laugh at others. My daughter is the kindest soul, and I know that if they dealt with her correctly, she would have apologised and tried her very best never to do it again.

anyway, she has cried for a week straight, begging me not to send her back to that school, adamant that the teachers don’t like her, and just full of anxiety

my other daughter had also been having a bit of trouble with some girls, and when addressed, I was told children will be children and this has continued.

so I’ve spoken with the council, filled in school transfer forms, and sent them in today, however I do not want to send the girls back to their current school. I have emailed the school and said I will be home educating them and they will not be returning to school.

is there anything else I need to do? Do I need to have further communication with them? Should I be writing a letter to state why I am de registering them?

also there are many schools within my area, if the school I’ve applied for does not have any spaces, am I able to tell the council I am happy with any school within the area, as long as I can go have a look and meet the senco first?

thankyou for reading

does she have an EHCP? Just on another note, what will you do if she isn’t eventually diagnosed with ASD? It happened to us

I’m in the process of applying for ehcp.
the waiting list in my area is 55 months, which is the rest of her time in primary school, therefore I would expect for her to have reasonable adjustments etc, up until then. They can’t just say we’re not going to give her reasonable adjustments because there’s a chance she might not be diagnosed. They need to make these adjustments up until she does or does not get a diagnosis.. It is very evident that she is neurodivergent, and they know that she doesn’t cope well with changes and they are the ones who brought it up to me that she needs things explaining different to others. However only two teachers are aware that she’s on the pathway, so other teachers in the school do not understand the issues.

I'm sorry your daughters have been having a rough time at school! You can definitely home educate them, either for a short or a long time.

Depending how you worded your letter to the school, it may or may not be enough. The law says that the school must remove your children's names from the roll promptly on receiving a letter from the parent stating that they are now being home educated. So the school might take issue with you saying that they "will be" home educated, and might think you are talking about an intention rather than something which IS happening which they need to act on. If I were you, I'd just wait to hear back from them. If they object to what you sent, then you could send them a better-worded letter. You can find a sample deregistration letter on the website of the home education charity Education Otherwise, under Resources. You don't have to give your reasons for choosing to home educate, you don't have to have a meeting with anyone, and you don't need anyone's permission. (I'm assuming by your reference to EHCP that you live in England; the process of removing children from school is different in Scotland.)