Home schooling dd with no GCSE’s myself

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Dd 8 in year 3 is really struggling in school, she’s awaiting asd/adhd and odd assessment but school is causing so much distress to her that she wants me to homeschool.
My concern is I was late diagnosed and also had the same issues as her so I did very poorly at school and left with F and G grade GCSEs.
Is it realistic to think I could homeschool? I struggle with my older dds homework in year 5 who is evidently much brighter than me but I don’t know what the alternative is as school is breaking her.

What about school is she finding so difficult? Is it friendship issues, the work itself, the school environment being overstimulating, or something else? I think being able to pinpoint (as much as possible) what the problem is needs to be the starting point.

She masks all day at school and when she gets home she just erupts like a volcano.
She is struggling to learn and is affected by the noise, sendco have tried so hard giving extra breaks and headphones but she comes home and cries and screams until bed time because it’s all too much for her to cope with.

As for friends, she isn’t interested in other people and is quite unkind to anyone who tries to be friends

The school may be able to do a schedule for her where she attends a shorter day or fewer days in the week and work is sent home to her. Some schools will also be willing to video the class and then the student working from home can watch the lesson in real time or when they are able to.

It sounds like you and her are going through a very difficult time.

I'd start with talking with the SENCO and if possible the LA about all the potential options where you are (where I am, the LA have an Inclusion and In-Year staff who can help with finding better school placements).

The school is unlikely to like it, but a part-time schedule may be what she needs. She may also be able to get a Education Otherwise Than At School support (EOTAS) where the LA can provide resources, though IME it can very difficult and takes a lot of documentation and...forceful personality to get through the barriers, but it would put less of the educational burden on you.

Whether home educating part-time or you end up needing to go fully Elective Home Education (EHE), it doesn't need to for the rest of her education. You can set the expectation of a year at a time or until going up to the next school to try again. Only you can know your and her limits on this - I found mine at about Y8 with my oldest who had significant additional needs, but also really really into maths beyond what I could do. It made a big different when he was able to get a part-time place that covered the core subjects.

There are what are called 'open and go' resources that have all the instructions there - Math Mammoth is a great one for primary maths, it worked well for my adhd and autistic kids, in part because it is so clear and the child knows when they are done. I found that last part vital with mine.

You don't actually have to teach your child every subject yourself - for the more formal subjects once they get out of your depth, look at the £2 tuition hub, which will do you a year's worth (30) of live lessons on a specific subject at depths all the way up to GCSE for £60 a year (you book at £10 per half term for a block of 5 lessons). There are also resources like White Rose Maths where you can buy the workbooks (less than £20 for a full year) and there are free YouTube videos for every day which teaches the content for you. Twinkl also provides answer sheets for all their worksheets, and there are answers in the back of CGP primary workbooks. Although you have to pay to subscribe to Twinkl, they have a lot of recorded live lessons on various topics for free on their Home Ed YouTube channel.
Technology Triumphs has free recorded content for art. You can cover most primary history by watching TV programmes and going to look around museums and reading the labels/talking about what you can see and by reading children's books from the library together - get them to find things out and run a lesson where they teach you and some cuddly toys.