Please come and give me some advice :(

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Our dd is 8 ,we have 4 other dc she has an older brother and three younger sisters .

She has recently been assesed for dyspraxia and has a few learning difficulties.

School have never been very helpful there has been a large turnover in staff including 4 HT's .

WE have been thinking about HE for a while as she just seems to get shoved in a corner at school and labelled as a naughty child .

We were going to start HE after the summer holidays but just lately she is more and more aggresive and miserable she is getting bullied a few examples are:

Her shoes been hidden at swimminbg

been called a freak and a skinny cow

children telling her they are going to call for her after school then beat her up (they did actually call for her too).

The thing is I am very up for this HE but very very worried about HT reaction we have mentioned it to her before and she said she didn't think we were allowed to HE (I know we are) but I think she is going to make things as difficult as possible for us so I want to be prepared for everything she may throw at us.

I also think it is going to be difficult because we are quite happy to leave our 3 other dc in school as they are doing really well ,so I don't want to be on bad terms with the school.

I hope this rambling makes sense and I would appreciate any advice you could give us many thanks x

The HT can't make it difficult for you.

If you want to home educate, that is your right.

You can write the deregistration letter now, deliver it at lunchtime, and bring your DD home, if you like.

The school then has the responsibility of informing the LEA.

The Education Otherwise site has a sample deregistration letter.

The fact that some of your children are still in the school should make no difference to the HT. Lots of families have some children in school, and some that are HE.

We had a similar situation to the one you describe - and have been HEing for over three years now.

Please feel free to CAT me if you like.

Thankyou Humphrey my dp was against he at first but when he saw how miserable she was at school he was all for it .

I think we are going to discuss it again with her tonight but it does look like that HE is the next step.

I haven't got cats up and running yet but I will get it sorted and cat you if I need thankyou very much

As long as your are in England and or Wales, the advice is correct. In Scotland things are slightly different (MuminScotland has done a thread for us on that)
Or the head teacher may mistakenly believe that there are more regulations when a child has SEN.
This is not true.
It is different if the child is in a Special School-then you need permission to dereg, but that can be obtained.

Your daughter is in an ordinary school.Even if she has a statement of SEN. You just do exactly as HC says and take in that 'dereg letter' and the HT cannot do anything about it. Be pleasant and assertive when you take it. I think you will be surprised that they accept things then.
Please do be sure and get a reciept for the letter so that you have proof that you have done so.
If your daughter does have a statement, the LA will want to review it on a yearly basis. But the recommendations in the statement only apply to the school and not to HE.

There is a thread here about deregistering, one about 'books on home education' and one on 'finding other home educators'. I would really recommend you find other local home educators soon for friendship and support.

For the very best support and information about home edding a child with SEN, look at the Home education-Special Needs website. This has a page of Month in the life of....... blogs, where different families describe how home education works for their children with SEN.
And best of all there is a HE-Special Needs email support list. The experience of the folks on that list is second to none and the support you will recive there is brilliant! I cannot recommend it highly enough.

Thankyou Julie ,we are in england I have been doing a bit of research but haven't come across the links you just gave so they will come in handy.

I did read free range education which was good ,I just think we need to delete the last four years of education and start over with one to one.

She dosen't ahve a statemnet school have only just accepted she is not just a difficult child .

I just feel a bit wussy about it and dp wants to tell them how useless they have been but I think been nice will get us further by been nice .

I deregistered my dd from yr3 and still have dd2 in Reception. The HT was ok with it. Good luck!