Should I home ed my daughters?

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I have two daughters 11 and 4.
Both are adopted and have special needs. I have been through the DLA fight and i am now in the EHCP fight for both of them. They both have higher rate DLA and lower rate mobility DLA. Youngest is in nappies and non verbal and i have just been refused an EHCNA for primary school which i am appealing. Both have diagnoses. Oldest is being home schooled at our expense while we await whatever crappy inadequate EHCP they will throw at us.
The diagnoses, adoption and DLA process has taken it out of me and DH.
I am now in a never ending EHCP process for both children.
I feel like i am spending their childhoods in the study doing paperwork and snapping at them.
I feel like i have worked so hard on EHCP and so far nothing in return.
I am a stay at home mum carer. I am educated to masters level. Family income is circa 170K at the moment.

We have the space at home to home educate.
The case against: Its a hell of a responsibility to take on the education of two human beings.
Financial, we will be footing the bill to the tune of about 1k per month for years on end when we shouldn't have to.

For: i wont have to deal with professionals who just don't have a clue about child development or education or child centeredness or just having any sort of warmth towards children.
My to do list will almost disappear.
Kids don't have to get up and do school run which is stressful
Kids can wear their own clothes.
they get 121 with their tutor which they love
their attendance is 100%
loads of downtime to relax which is important and therapeutic for them
They don't have to spend loads of time on subjects they don't want to do, my eldest only really likes swimming so she just does that, she hates languages and drama so i can just drop those.
Schools are shit for a million reasons
My eldest just wants to learn and is bright and has told me she is learning more at home.
i can chop and change what we do, activities, tutor, online, trips out based on the age of my children and what they like
There is an explosion in high quality Home ed provision which you can buy in
The social side is now coming along as i set up groups etc and go to activities
Youngest seems to be doing better at home than at nursery
we can travel and visit relatives outside term holidays
My eldest has actually started to enjoy learning, she hated school and was behind.

I would really appreciate objective feedback.

I'm an adoptive parent. We currently flexischool 1 day a week primarily for attachment needs. She's outwardly going OK so far with school but I also think her learning potential is inhibited due to what you have also highlighted about school not really getting her and having to be a one Size fits all situation.
In your situation with your children learning happily at home and needing your presence above all else I would 100% home educate. If they're attachment needs are unmet their chances of achieving their learning potential will be very much poorer.

It sounds like your already HE in effect- and smashing it!
I absolutely hear you about the EHCP process taking away time and energy that could be spent on your kids....sometimes for little positive effect.
I currently HE my son due to SEN although we'll be trying a few days in specialist provision from next year.
I did find it useful to get the paperwork in order, alongside of HE, although God knows it's a pita and I wouldn't blame anyone for walking away from the process.
It feels like a really strong position to have the option of specialist school but also the confidence in my abilities to HE if it doesn't work out.

Yes. Do it.