home educated kids

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hello everyone

i feel really bad last time i posted on mumsnet was when my ds wasnt sleeping at night

basically i wanted to ask a few questions about homeschooling i hope that the ladies here dont mind answering

basically i always wanted to hs ds who is now 5 but in the end i sent him to school i suppose cuz he doesnt like to be kept at home hes always on the go if you know what i mean and he loved the idea of school and loves his school uniform etc

he is doing well, obviously i feel he could be further but he knows most letters and sounds etc and numbers

i just feel so disappointed that i didnt hs and i think i might take him out at p6 or before

but i wanted to ask if any body had really active kids who need to get out and about and would prefer school, and how did you cater for them?

do you find that hs children are more lazy than children at school since they might not get up early do a full day etc sorry just read that back i apologise for my ignorance ?

as a mum how do u feel not having the break that school gives?

thats it for now hope mumsnet ladies can help

thanks

bridget

I think more active kids would benefit from home education as opposed to school. In school, your ds is going to have to sit still and conform, whereas at home he can learn in an active way if that is what suits him. Home education doesn't just mean "in the home" either, you won't be confined to the four walls all day!

I don't think that he kids are lazier than school kids - it's not really comparable, as they may not do a "full school day" but instead do things that are just as valuable.

I have experience of home ed as a pupil rather than a parent, so I can't really comment on the break that school gives.

Good luck to you!

If you like your son, I mean actually like his company, like knowing he's around, then you will like HE'ing him. The child you see at the end of the school day is tired, cranky and will probably get more stressed out as he goes through school.
If he is active he will enjoy running around the park, walking/running in the woods, swimming, whatever you can think up.
I dont think HE children are lazy. To put it in perspective I have never heard any parents on here tell us that their children are bored, which means they must be doing something, even if it is only thinking deeply about something.
As for getting up late, you are only Home Educating them, not abrogating your parental responsibility of everyday lie it is still your job to make sure they get up, brush their teeth etc. But on those days when you want a duvet day, there is no reason for getting up is there?

life not lie.

1. No HEd kids are not lazy, at least the ones I know. Mine are used to filling their own time (I'm not going to entertain them 24/7, they spend a lot of time playing together and with other HE'd kids, building dens and making worryingly unstable structures with cardboard boxes ). If they want to know something, they WILL take first responsbility for finding it out-they'll try to work stuff out before asking me, which I think is very very good. Its much more useful to be able to learn for yourself than to know lots of things, IMO.

1. Active kids tend to be better being HEd

HE doesn't mean you spend all day at home. My kids spend far, far less time at home than schooled kids.

Why is it that you want to HE though? My main reason was to give my dc extra time to play, but also, I don't really see how teaching, especially of 4-7 year olds, can be done effectively with a 1-15 ratio.

Re the being at home all day. First off, yes its a commitment, yes its hard work. Its a job, bascially. That said, I have 3 kids under 4.5, if you have just the one 5 year old, I'd have thought he could play for a bit on his own every day to give you a break?

Oh AND

If you are interested and want to see how it works, I would really really recommend going to some groups for HE'd kids

You will probably have a local yahoo groups or post your location here, there might well be a local HEing MNetter.

I'd agree with fillyjonk
Find some local home educators and go along to a meeting and talk to them in real life.
I'm sure you would be welcome-and you and your son can get a taste/flavour of what it is like-and watch the very active kids leaping around and having a really good time!

hi everyone

Thanks for the replies

Im going to give it a go on easter and in the summer holidays and see how it goes from there

Today and last night when i was doing his homework (yes he is primrary 1 and gets hw) i started to notice signs of frustration, i had to go over matching letters with him and he knew all the sounds the letters make but got confused with the name of the letters, today his teacher told me that she isnt going to give him anymore reading books with words till he understands that he must read from right to left cuz he speaks arabic and will sometimes go from left to right. Thing is though when he go his first reading book last week with words he knew them all except 'chip' so am guessing when he went in after the midterm break he's maybe forgotten it a bit and now is being left behind cuz he 'forgot' i mean he is 5 of course he's gonna forget so basically i have to catch him up at home myself anyway. Oh I dunno maybe I'm moaning for no reason what do u guys think?

I enjoy my sons company but i also enjoy a break, he's really no bother at home especially at this age if am cleaning or cooking he loves colouring or playdough or he has a vtech vsmile game thing, i was thinking that when am driving fully it will be great cuz i can just go off to the park for the day etc am seriously considering this

oh yeah my reasons for homeschooling are that i want my son to keep his arabic identity and learn to read and speak arabic, he comes home too tired to be sitting down to learn a lil bit of arabic

secondly i feel someone else has more time with my child than me 5 hours is too much for me and hes only 5

thirdly i feel he is missing out on so much and that there are so many wonderful ways and things for him to learn, i'd like him to explore the world u knw collect bunches of acorns instead of a teacher showing him 1 acorn lol

anyway anymore advice please

bridget

Hi bridget.

There a couple of HE support groups for different cultures-if this would be of interest to you, contact me on the info@ link on our local website below.

Also have you come across Muddle Puddle?
It is a website dedicated to families who are home educating young children.

There is also a book that i have heard good reports about;
One-to-one: A Practical Guide to Learning at Home Age 0-11
By Gareth Lewis, Lin Lewis

One-to-One is a comprehensive guide to learning at home with young children. Its sections on reading, writing and arithmetic have been widely praised by educationalists and parents alike. Additional sections on art, cooking, gardening and crafts show how parents can use these activities to complement academic work and create an idyllic childhood for their children, free from stress and the pressures of modern life.

available here

hth
regards Julie
Home Educating in Worcestershire

I think its quite reasonable that he is getting confused here, tbh

i learn various ancient languages as an adult, some read r-l, and that confused me even then.

Has anyone sat down with him and talked about how different langauges evolved differently, etc etc? So letting him know that his confusion is actually quite legitimte and sensible?

hi

Just wanted to say thanks for the information and the responses, taking all on board here

was doin ds homework with him the other night and I realised that he actually knws alot u know letters sounds etc i was wondering do any he parents ever doubt themselves like i feel what if i cant keep up with the schools and he ends up loosing out am sure am not the first to ask this, but like i said before excuse my ignorance

also if i wasnt he should i do extra reading with him at home asides from story time as i really like the jelly and bean series and was thinking of getting it but worry that it would all be to much for him.

again thanks every one

bridget