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Home Ed one child with one in mainstream?

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Whysomanyfoxes · 03/02/2023 21:57

I’m seriously considering home educating my son (7): he is incredibly anxious and school is a huge trigger. However, younger child, 5, is happy and thriving at school. Has anyone experience and/or advice on home schooling one child and one remaining in mainstream? Thanks

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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 03/02/2023 21:58

I dont have experience but am in the same situation where we are going to pull our 7yr old son out and homeschool as hes needs arent being met (asd, spd, ocd) but our 5 and 6 year olds will stay in mainstream as they are thriving.

SpinningFloppa · 03/02/2023 22:03

Yes I have 3 children in mainstream but one home educated

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Whysomanyfoxes · 03/02/2023 22:17

Thanks. How do you manage it? Are the ones in mainstream “jealous” of the time your home-Ed child has with you? How did you explain it all to them?

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Whysomanyfoxes · 03/02/2023 22:18

Same boat - needs not being met. Feel like it would be the best solution but worry how my younger child may react.

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Soapboxqueen · 03/02/2023 22:20

I have one in and one out.

Mostly it's fine as my dd enjoys school. I point out the things that she likes that she couldn't do at home etc

It's been more difficult of late because she's not enjoying it as much this year as she changed schools.

But we are coping.

SpinningFloppa · 03/02/2023 22:22

Yes there is jealousy but dd has sen and they are NT so they understand the situation and I couldn’t possibly home Ed all of them, like I said there is jealousy but I’ve explained that dds needs can’t be met at school so they do understand.

Itisbetter · 03/02/2023 22:22

I’d question if it was the best way to overcome anxiety but yes I’ve had one home and the rest in school.

urrrgh46 · 03/02/2023 22:24

Been home edging for 10ths with multiple children. We've had all out and some out. We always have the children the choice though. i personally never felt happy saying to one they could be home ed and others they could not. So ours have always been in school by choice. The main disadvantage of own in one out is the lack of flexibility around the school day eg if you want to do a trip you can only do so within school hours. Neither can you take advantage of cheaper holidays!! So with your children only being 5 & 7 is really think about whether it's worth keeping the younger one in school versus the gains of home ed.

urrrgh46 · 03/02/2023 22:25

that's should read been home educating 10 years!! Honestly auto correct is so annoying!

Junobug · 03/02/2023 22:27

We lasted about 3 months with one in and one out before the one in school realised we were having much more fun out of school and joined us and it is so much easier having them bothe out. However, like someone else said, it has to be their choice.

Saracen · 04/02/2023 00:21

Would you be opposed to your younger child leaving school as well if they wanted to? If that's an option, then jealousy shouldn't be an issue because school would be their choice. If they are happier at school than they would be at home, presumably they wouldn't be jealous of their sibling staying home.

JustKeepBuilding · 04/02/2023 14:42

Rather than EHE have you considered applying for an EHCP? Then if school isn’t suitable you can have EOTAS which as well as academic provision can include therapies and other provision.

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